Need advice on dating a married man ....?

Ive been in a relationship with a married man for 6 months now. Him and his wife are in mutual agreement that they want nothing to do with each other, and a divorce as soon as possible. They have 1 child together, and due to the childs school schedule, and financial reasons, he cannot move out until the fall. ive been sticking it out, and the more times goes by, the harder it is. we see each other nearly every day, talk every night, but its far from a normal stable relationship, which is what i want. i normally would have nothing to do with a situation, but truely love this man, and am willing to wait it out, but its driving me nuts!!! help please!Need advice on dating a married man ....?
Same boat as me. It sucks. I did maintain contact with him for the first ten months, and then it got to be too stressful on both of us, so we mutually decided to cut off communication, and just let fate take over. Well that was six months ago, and he still isn't here. I'm not a stupid, naive woman, and I know that he will leave and we will be together, he is just waiting for his wife to finish college. She graduates this June.





Anyways, I am not here to talk sh*t to you or judge you, even though I'm sure others will. I can just tell you that I understand what you are going through, and here's my suggestion:





Cut off the communication. It is SOOOOO hard at first, especially with how often you talk, and see each other. When we cut it off, it was in October. That was the last time I saw him. I have talked on the phone with him only twice since then.





It really sucks at first, but you will get used to it, and you will feel much better about yourself. It is hard enough being in your situation, and feeling like you always have to justify and explain yourself. You will feel a little less crappy if you can at least say that you briefly dated, then you decided to go on and do your own thing and let him leave on his own, then you guys hooked up afterward.





Good luck.Need advice on dating a married man ....?
really? you love him? or are you infatuated with him? if you love him back off a little and see what happens. you will then see your answer. you see, a man who tells you he has to stay for reasons of convenience lacks character. he should move out, do whatever he needs to do to handle his childs school schedule, and make sacrifices in regards to the finances. maybe he can move in with you, after all, this is about love isn't it? then you and he should prove it.
Does it not bother you that you are an adulteress? That you have come between the relationship that God joined together (if it is his first marriage)? How would you feel if you were the wife? We reap what we sow and adultery is not the foundation anyone should want for their relationship. If a man/woman cheats on their spouse with you, they will likely do again TO you.
i read nothing but excuses in your question. there's an excuse why he's seeing you, an excuse for why he hasn't moved out, an excuse for why he's waiting to divorce. and you have excuses for why you are still in this 'relationship'. i wouldn't believe a thing this man tells me, but since you ';truly love this man';, i doubt that you are going to back out of it. any way i look at it, this relationship is unhealthy and doesn't seem to be going anywhere. and honestly, a man that cheats on his wife like this (not to mention there is a child involved!), couldn't have any quality that would redeem him in my eyes.
normallly I think women who date married men are just awful people. I think you're a sucker for a bullchit story. He's playing you. He's married and he hasn't left his wife. It doesn't matter what he tells you. Talk to her if you want to know the truth. On second thought, save yourself the trouble and move far away.
What did you think would come from choosing to fall in love with a married man...happiness and bliss? Either grin-and-bare-it, or break it off until his situation is finalized. If you're meant to be together, you'll find each other again. If not - then it was never meant to be anyway.
Dont be a fool. What makes you so special that he wont run around on you when you are together? But, the proof of the pudding is in the eating, so see what you see when fall comes and you are still living alone.


I truly hope that things work out for you and all that the time that you have invested in this wasnt in vain.
I was dating a married man, who had a kid, who lived check by check. GREATEST learning experience ever! At the same time the WORST!!! He was not over her. Nor was she. But, she had a boyfriend, and I was the girlfriend.... I think the only. Anyways... It's HELL! Believe me.... and if you don't believe me. See for yourself. Sorry what your going through :(


I know how tough it was.
He's married???? Red flag stay away!!!!!! wait till the divorce is final and then move forward with your relationship, if you still feel that's what you really want to do. Do you really want to be put in the category of homewrecker even though he says they are going to get a divorce
I've been in this situation. I still love him too. But you can't continue being in a one way relationship. It's not fair to you. If you truly love him and he truly loves you. He'll understand that you won't continue on unless their is a solid effort to pursue your relationship. Good Luck.
The only help I can offer is to get out of the relationship. While in the same home and still married there is a chance they could save the marriage. The don't need a homewrecking little tramp in the middle of it all. How would you feel in her place? What if that were your kid?
You knew this would be tough when you started a relationship with a married man. I am not here to judge but i think you need to realise that this will be a hard wait. Just know that if it is meant to be it will be. Good luck
DUMP HIM! You are worth more than what he is able to give you. If they want nothing to do with each other, he would find a way to get out and file for divorce. Divorce can be cheap these days if they divorce is amicable!
i think he is playing u like someone already said having said that i dont think he is the only one i the wrong here. sorry im a married woman and that is what i think
he is not worth the wait. most men who cheat on their wives will tell that same story to their girlfriend. I think he is playing you.
If you are cool with the situation then stick it out but...there is always a chance they could 'fall back in love'. It happens allot. You may want to pull back a bit so you don't get hurt.
If he would cheat on his wife and kid he will cheat on you...This man has no morals, get away you can do better.
Is your self-respect so lacking you're willing to believe this bullshit? Come on now. Move on. Separated or not he is still legally MARRIED.
My advice for dating a married man - DON'T. He's MARRIED, even if he feels it's over, legally it's not, so you shouldn't be dating him.
So you are going to believe this MARRIED man's bullchit about his marital situation? Best advise...dump him and find someone who is available...
Demand to meet his wife %26amp; if he's lying you can have my husband instead.
all married men s stories are always the same crap im going to leave but ? as i was saying bullsh*t move on go find you a single guy
have you met his wife... the whole thing sounds fishy to me.


You are asking for trouble when you date a married man and if he is still living there... they aren't even separated.
Move on and find another man preferably single...If he cheats with you he will cheat on you.
Incoming sh*t storm!
He's stringing you along. Cut the strings yourself.
Use him as a stepping stone to a real guy.
He'll cheat on you eventually, then you'll know how his wife felt. You'll get what's coming to you.
I'm not giving you advice. Your dating a married man?!?! You suck how about that you home wrecker!
You already said you are willing to wait. Is He?
cheating is wrong even a little bit