Any advice on dating a man who has been widowed for one year. John and I dated in high school. He was my 1st?

love. Because we were young and inexperienced, our love affair ended. Fast forward, we both married other people, I got divorced and his wife of 16 years passed away in 2007 after a short battle with cancer. We connected in December 2007 and have gotten hot and heavy again. The problem is lately everytime we have a conversation, no matter what it is, the LW pops up somehow in the conversation. I don't know if this is because the anniversary of her death is approaching or if he's just not really over losing her and maybe he never will be. How long does the feeling of walking in another person's shadow last and what is the proper length of time to let him keep talking about her before I confront him about it.Any advice on dating a man who has been widowed for one year. John and I dated in high school. He was my 1st?
I think it is all of what you mentioned and more.





Since they were married til death did them part.. there was a lot of love and commitment there.





Since she battled with cancer, it affected him seeing her suffer as well. Not being able to Fix the problem.





The anniversary of her death, since he may not have dealt with his grief yet is normal.





Give it a little time... let him talk about his deceased wife...


It shows you care about him and what he needs at the moment.





Which will help him love you all the more in the long run.... if that is what you are wanting.





hope this helps youAny advice on dating a man who has been widowed for one year. John and I dated in high school. He was my 1st?
Sounds like she was his first love. Give him time. As much time as he needs. Sounds to me like he needs someone to talk to. Are you willing to be a friend that listens? Its always good to build a relationship on friendship anyway. So when the test and trials come in your relationship it won't be based on sex or money or any other tangible thing. Build your friendship first if you have a desire to be with him and all the other parts of the relationship will be extra. God bless.
Why will he ever be over loosing her? She is not ever going to go away but may fade. Let him talk about her and then let it be. It has only been one year (he sure moved quick).





Since you have a long-a-go history with him, I would say that no woman can ever take your place. She was never his first. She is gone. You are top dog.
You are just a girlfriend. When he marries you, you have a right to say something.
He was your first what? give details.