Guys 35 and up....I need advice on how to approach a man?

Ok I am a 25 year old widow with two children ages 7 and 4. I have recently saw(not talked to or anything like that) a man that is around 38 years old. His children (15, 17) go to the same school as my son. My dad helps coach basketball there and one of this guys daughters plays, so I see him often at the games. He is a well known man, seems super nice, hard working and not bad looking. There is just something about him that intrigues me. He has been divorced for about 10 years with no serious relationships since (i've asked around). What I need to know is.......how can I approach him? Any tips or pointers....I've never tried talking to an older guy. Do you think he would mind talking(or more in the future) to me at my age? I really want to make a good first impression. Thanks!Guys 35 and up....I need advice on how to approach a man?
well being 38 id say make damn sure he doesnt see you as too young for him sit close to him at a game introduce yourself and see if he rattles off a few witty coments you know make sure hes interested wear something appropriate but sexy so to speak my gut says hell notice men prefer curves as to heavy and baggy attire make sure he knows your all woman the fact that your 25 and interested in him will have him druling trust me im think about you being 25 and im salavating...lol....let him carry on make sure hes whaat you want then ask him straight out and to the point at a later time like the next game if hes seeing anyone if no jump on it say good then you can take me out for a beer dont give him any room to back peddle hand him your number and tell him to call and walk off.......hell call or hes a damn fool or involved with someone else....remember keep control your not a little girl your his next wife....if hes man enough hell except it and be puddy in your hands...take control dont wait for him to persue you or youll be old and grey attending geratol conventions before he makes his move.....go get him girl take no prisoner....this question defanately patch the hole in my sinking ship.......p.s. i invey the lucky sob.......skipperGuys 35 and up....I need advice on how to approach a man?
Im 34, so Ill answer anyway.


First off, Id be flattered if I were him. Just take it slow and start a conversation. Remember, you are two adults and this isnt highschool anymore. I tell myself that because when we get older, we lay things on the line and get real. Its so much better that way. Also, make sure you complement him in anyway that reflects that you admire him as a man. For example- '; Has anyone ever told you that you have broad shoulders'; ? I know that seems corney but us men like that. Remember, once your foots in the door, ask him out for coffee or on a good day, ask for help with something heavy at your home. If he comes over, and if he CAN come over, you will know he has some kind of good vibe towards you.
Well best thign to do is know what kind of drink he lieks and have 2 one for him and one for you and just go to where he is and say Hello how's it going and take it from there. But make sure to also tell him here I ahve two drinks must have gotten one too many so want one. and from there on if he lieks you he will always want to be around you and will always seek you out. HE woudl sorta have a crush on you for a while then he will ask you out and then you know what to do then%26gt; SO good luck
Okay...I am definitely 35 %26amp; up and have been happily remarried for many years after my first wife cheated on me, You sound like a mature, responsible parent %26amp; I suspect that this 38 year old guy is also a mature %26amp; responsible parent. You already have a common denominator with him since your dad coaches his daughter. Maybe you could invite your dad ( and your mom if she is still in the picture ) over to your house for dinner ?? The next time you see this guy at a game ...you could casually mention to him that you are making dinner for your dad and you were wondering if ( considering that your dad is his daughters coach ) the guy %26amp; his daughter would be interested in coming over for dinner at your house ?? If he say yes....We can come ...then you can have the guy %26amp; his daughter over for dinner. If ( considering that the daughter is 15 or 17 ) the guy says his daughter has or may have other plans.....you can tell the guy the invitation is still open to him.---- If the guy says they are both busy then......you can say maybe we can have dinner some other time.-------IF the guy does come to your house for dinner.......your dad can initiate conversation %26amp; help keep it flowing by talking about the team %26amp; the daughter in a positive fashion. You can also reinforce this conversation by displaying an interest in the team %26amp; the daughter.....and based upon the way you described this guy I think he would appreciate your concern for his family.----This is nothing new ---After I was divorced---I used to take my 2 boys to ball games, etc. sponsored by Parents Without Partners %26amp; many women would frequently approach men through their children. I met my current wife many years ago at a Divorced %26amp; Separated Parents Club %26amp; one of the things I have always loved about her is the way she has always welcomed my boys even though they could not live with us.----Good Luck !
no need to hesitate because u both r matured he will take it in correct way .My advice is dont waste the time
I'm 35. I don't have kids, but I'll throw in my 2 cents anyways. How do your children go to the same school as his? Yours are 4 %26amp; 7 and his are 15 and 17 . . . shouldn't his kids be in high school and yours in elementary? Anways, the way to a sports fan heart is through - you guessed it . . . sports. He's also probably a pround papa, so compliement him on his daughters ability. that should get him talking and feeling comforable. Then, maybe you'll find yourself in a conversation with him an you can suggest a time to get together.