Advice on how to leave this married man?

ive been with this married man for 3 yrs now, im 24 and he's 25- wheni met him he was married only for 7 months and had one son, and ofcourse made all these promises and tried leaving his wife at one time at the beginning and ofcourse didnt happen and some how i stayed because he always made me beleive they were not together. but i found out they are living together still, and they have another son - we had a son too he's 7 months. i was preg before and he convinced me to have an abort, and again on 2nd time but i couldnt , so we had a son. he kept saying we were going to get an apt together but when it came to signing the lease there were just excuses , i ended up signing alone , but yet im still with him - he is paying half on rent saying its our apt. ofcourse he's never there either working or with his wife and kids , hardly spends time with our son, he says its hard for him to abondon his kids, how do i leave him ????Advice on how to leave this married man?
This is the typical woman on the side so-called love story. He won't leave his wife because the grass is not greener on the other side. What makes you so delusional to think that if he is lying to his wife, a woman who he exchanged vows with, that he won't lie to you. He may not even have any problems but with you, so caught up in thinking that he will be with you exclusively. If he wanted to be with you, he would. Instead, he is at home right now in bed with his wife where he belongs. The question that I have for you is why did you bring a baby into this mess? It's OK if you want to be irresponsible, but shouldering the disdain from your son once he gets older is going to be humiliating. My advice is to get some self respect for yourself.Advice on how to leave this married man?
you shouldnt have had a kid with the man. he has a family and no offense but you just kinda ruined it for him and his wife and his kids. i dont think that you would have liked it if someone did that to you. but look just tell him straight up that you really cant be with him because for one hes married and two idk what you want to say but you shouldnt have got started with him. good luck to you
First of all, you shouldn't have murdered your child for any man. Second, you just cut off all contact. You are there for sex, he is never going to leave his wife for you. Even if he did, would you ever be able to trust him?
You need to change YOURSELF, not him.





Work on improving your own self esteem. That way you will not fall for the empty promises of the NEXT loser guy you meet.





You are worth the love and respect of a real man. Don't settle for less!
Well you should have never started it in the first place. The person I feel the worst for is the poor baby, he did not have a choice
Walk away and don't look back. He will NEVER leave his poor wife. He is a creep. I am sorry you are in this situation but there is better for you out there. LEAVE HIM and keep some pride.
honey he never tried to leave her. when you really want to leave somebody, you just pack up and walk out!


how could you be with a married man? you deserve every lie he told you and every problem you will face regarding this man.


you knew he was married and you facilitated and encouraged a deception that has put this other woman and her children in a less than desirable situation and you have produced a child that will end up suffering because of your stupidity. you chose his daddy!


you are free, conveneint sex and that is it.


so to answer your question...LEAVE dummy!
Since you two have a child together you are going to have a difficult time getting him out of your life. However, there are ways to get over him emotionally. You need to focus your attention on a new hobby. Start dating other men just for fun. Keep yourself busy and tell yourself every time you think of him it is over.





Setting aside your own feelings, you also need to make sure your child is provided for. I couldn't tell by what your wrote if his wife is aware you have a child by him as well. If he doesn't want to help you financially you should file a paternity suit against him to make him pay child support.
there is no key answer to make you walk away . it is up to you and it sounds like you're in a lot of pain and hurt and maybe eventually that will make you wake up and be done with this mess. why are you settling to be second or third in his life? he is mentally abusing you and its obviously took its toll on you because it sounds as though your self worth and respect is nil. he will treat you this way as long as you keep allowing it. another thing, why want this ';man'; who cheats on his wife, lies, etc, etc,? he's not even worth it. stop your addiction to him and go make your life better somehow someway
Don't listen to his empty promises. If you tell him that you are leaving he will be sure to promise you that ';this time'; he will leave his wife. Don't believe it. He's just saying that to get you secure enough to stay and him stay with his wife too. I'm sorry but he's not going to leave her, and I don't think he's going to let go of you with out a fight either. I would say the best way would be to loose all contact with him, but now you have a child involved. If you can survive without any of his support then do it. Get rid of him and find yourself a single man this time.