I need guy advice on how to approach my man about our lack of a sex life without insulting him?

Ok so here it is...I have been in a relationship with my b/f for 3years now, in the beginning we had sex A Lot and great sex at that, now I am lucky for once a week (if that). I know that that initial lust wears down once you have been together for a long time...but this is a huge cut. He doesn't initiate it anymore and rarely tries to please me (even though I preform oral on him a couple times a week) Everything else in our relationship is perfect he compliments me all the time and does special things for me and shows no indication of a more obvious problem. I have brought this issue up to him but he gets very defensive as if I am attacking him, which I am not I just want to know what is about ME that he no longer wants to go out of his way to physically pleasure me, he is great when it happens I just want to know why it doesn't happen anymore, which sucks cause I could have it every day if I could. I also thought that maybe he just wasn't feeling horny lately, but I find porn our computer all the time. What do I do how do I approach him without him feeling like I am attacking him personally or is there something that maybe I am missing! I need guy advice on how to approach my man about our lack of a sex life without insulting him?
I've been through the same thing, and the truth is you need to eliminate the PORN as much as possible. Honestly, guys in long term relationships tend to want to masturbate to internet porn than having sex with their partner. However if you cut down / off the porn, the drive will come back slowly. Its hard to face, but guys will often think about having sex with other women and porn is the mental escape. I'm not sure how you can TELL him to stop with the porn viewing but it will definitely help. Good luck.I need guy advice on how to approach my man about our lack of a sex life without insulting him?
try making it easier for him. sleep naked. Walk around naked. do the dishes naked. and stop being so good to him if he isnt going to take care of you.
my advice to you is quite giving him oral sex. he will get hungry and come around. right now your just giving him what he needs to feel like a real man and to watch the porn that tells me he would drat-her be satisfied his self and he isn't worried about you give him a dose of his own medicine make him do you and see the change.
cut out the oral. You are satisfying him and he doesn't have to do anything in return. He'll start things going soon. You are giving him what he wants and he's satisfied. If things don't pick up...take things in your ';own hands';. Hell, do it right in front of him....it will either get him horny or will show him you don't need him to have fun. It's a win/win for you.
Is he stressed out about something? Work? Bills? Vehicle problems, etc? Is there a possibility of a porn addiction? How about an online affair? (I don't mean to be harsh, I'm sorry.) Stress can affect a guys libido just like it can a girls. An addiction to porn (and masturbation with it) can kill the desire to have intercourse. And an online affair (with masturbation) can do the same...





Ultimately, talk to him about it. But NOT at bedtime when it seems like criticism. Bring it up one afternoon when y'all are lounging around the house (not in the middle of something stressful like rush-hour traffic, fixing the kitchen sink, etc...) Keep communication open.





Good luck.
Dame girl I'm a guy I feel you on that tho some times I feel like that myself but its not her that don't want it its me. Let me tell you my reason and hopefully it helps OK here goes 4-me its gets boring after a while 4-some reason I think its because its the same person and nothing chang so talk to him about it ok