Be a good friend, listen when he needs to talk, share your opinion when needed, don't be overly critical, but don't get walked allover on. Just be yourself.Spiritually speaking ....any advice on how to keep and make my man happy.???I know they are simple creatures..
1. Don't assume anything. Guys are very surface-oriented critters.
2. Don't overthink anything. If you find yourself wondering, ';Now what did he mean by that?'; you're overthinking.
3. Remember that you are a wonderful, lovely creation of God, and this guy chose you. You don't have to be anything but yourself.Spiritually speaking ....any advice on how to keep and make my man happy.???I know they are simple creatures..
seriously, your man is a man, and men like beautiful woman, so execise and stay in beautiful shape, show him you care for his concerns, and needs, and be understanding.
Spiritually speaking - our needs are really simple and easily satisfied. Make us believe that we are getting our way even when we aren't with a fair amount of sex and I think he'll be happy.
Feed them
Sex them
Never complain
And the most important:
Make them think, that EVERY good idea comes from them.
(You are the neck, which turns his head, hon)
spiritually speaking.. give him smiles. Let him know you care. Make him LAUGH! Talk to him. But don't sweat it. If he's the one he WILL be happy, I promise!!
Sex can make any man happy. Then beer and football (England). If possible, let you man have three things at the same time.
Get naked. Love chicks. Make good food. And don't talk so much.
Well judging from your avatar...
I think you need a new hairdo..
Saturday, July 31, 2010
Tattoo on his stomach for a military man. 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
My friend is a student marine. He is planning to go to law school or go for an officer training in the Marine corp.
He recently got tattoo across his stomach. It said, '; Espirit'; it is a marine thing. Do you think it is sexy ? Will this affect his future career?
Thank youTattoo on his stomach for a military man. 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
If he is a marine go for it. Its a military thing.Tattoo on his stomach for a military man. 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
No, it's tacky. But as long as it's hidden it won't affect his career.
no-it will not affect his career
depends on the person you ask if a tatt is sexy on certain parts of the body..
I love all tatts...
no/no
As long as it's not visable, no problem. But tattoos are stupid, in my opinion.
A tattoo on his stomach will have no effect on his career, in that, it will not show when he is in uniform. I have never seen an officer with a tattoo that shows when he is in uniform. Let that be the criteria he follows when getting a tattoo.
The Military will accept anybody who is or stand higher than the floor.
Won't affect it at all.
Yes it IS a Marine thing.
No I don't find it sexy. If it was ';Semper Fidelis'; with a cute design around it, yes.
No, it won't if it's on his stomach and covered up.
Wootsauce.
I wouldn't go around showing it to everyone! I don't think it will hurt a thing. It shows pride.
personally its sounds kind of gay...
No but it's going to look like sh-t when he's 40.
No, and no.
No, I do not think it is sexy. On his stomach? Decidedly unsexy, sorry. He may be in shape now, and he may stay that way for awhile, but I'm guessing it's a big tattoo, and gravity (plus body fat gain) will stretch it and its unsexiness exponentially over time.
(sorry!)
This should not affect his career, but I wouldn't go around bragging about it/showing it off. If he got the tattoo for the right reasons...i.e. it means something to HIM...then he doesn't need to show it off.
If he got it thinking it would impress others (who cares?), he got it for the wrong reasons.
Regardless, he should keep his shirt on and it covered. Not out of shame, just to be professional.
When he does happen to have it exposed, people will either praise him or mock him, and that's for him to deal with in the moment.
Good luck to your ';friend'; :-D
Is there a bet riding on the mass appeal of his tattoo?
No it is not sexy, cause i am not into guys. it will not affect his career unless he IS into guys.
Do i find it sexy no but im a guy. It wont affect his future plans either. The tattoo is well within regulations so it wont be a problem.
Yes it is a Marine thing.
No it wont effect hgis carrerr
No I do not find anything about men sexy( Im not a liberal male though)blackheads eraser
He recently got tattoo across his stomach. It said, '; Espirit'; it is a marine thing. Do you think it is sexy ? Will this affect his future career?
Thank youTattoo on his stomach for a military man. 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
If he is a marine go for it. Its a military thing.Tattoo on his stomach for a military man. 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
No, it's tacky. But as long as it's hidden it won't affect his career.
no-it will not affect his career
depends on the person you ask if a tatt is sexy on certain parts of the body..
I love all tatts...
no/no
As long as it's not visable, no problem. But tattoos are stupid, in my opinion.
A tattoo on his stomach will have no effect on his career, in that, it will not show when he is in uniform. I have never seen an officer with a tattoo that shows when he is in uniform. Let that be the criteria he follows when getting a tattoo.
The Military will accept anybody who is or stand higher than the floor.
Won't affect it at all.
Yes it IS a Marine thing.
No I don't find it sexy. If it was ';Semper Fidelis'; with a cute design around it, yes.
No, it won't if it's on his stomach and covered up.
Wootsauce.
I wouldn't go around showing it to everyone! I don't think it will hurt a thing. It shows pride.
personally its sounds kind of gay...
No but it's going to look like sh-t when he's 40.
No, and no.
No, I do not think it is sexy. On his stomach? Decidedly unsexy, sorry. He may be in shape now, and he may stay that way for awhile, but I'm guessing it's a big tattoo, and gravity (plus body fat gain) will stretch it and its unsexiness exponentially over time.
(sorry!)
This should not affect his career, but I wouldn't go around bragging about it/showing it off. If he got the tattoo for the right reasons...i.e. it means something to HIM...then he doesn't need to show it off.
If he got it thinking it would impress others (who cares?), he got it for the wrong reasons.
Regardless, he should keep his shirt on and it covered. Not out of shame, just to be professional.
When he does happen to have it exposed, people will either praise him or mock him, and that's for him to deal with in the moment.
Good luck to your ';friend'; :-D
Is there a bet riding on the mass appeal of his tattoo?
No it is not sexy, cause i am not into guys. it will not affect his career unless he IS into guys.
Do i find it sexy no but im a guy. It wont affect his future plans either. The tattoo is well within regulations so it wont be a problem.
Yes it is a Marine thing.
No it wont effect hgis carrerr
No I do not find anything about men sexy( Im not a liberal male though)
Girls .....need advice....do you find aftershave on a man sexy?
which one do you prefer
lolGirls .....need advice....do you find aftershave on a man sexy?
incredibly sexy, i like CKone, Brute or just lynx deodorant, but don't go to heavy on any of them as you don't want people to be able to smell you before they can see you :-)Girls .....need advice....do you find aftershave on a man sexy?
depending on wat it is and if it doesnt stink i think it is very alluring my favourites on a man are giorgio armani acqua di gio and cerrutti 1880 because they smell so fresh and so clean and so sexy ;-)
eternity ck is sooo nice on a man also boss is very nice ... but as long as a man smells clean i wouldnt be fussy
Well I do like it when guys smell nice. If I'm getting up close to their face, it's nice to smell good things. haha.
No, not usually it's too strong.
I prefer Aramis cologne just dabbed on the pulse points. It's fresh, clean, yet sexy.
i like beer belly breath
as long as the smell isn't super strong
Stetson
YES!
I like the musky types!
But oldie's but goodie's that i love is Brut, %26amp;
Aqua Velva.
Well, it's alright if you don't overdo them. Anything is fine, actually.
Yes ..... i love paul smith for men very sexy smell .......
I also like d%26amp;g that smells very nice
I find it VERY sexy. Issey Miyake smells really good :) Burberry and DKNY too...
I like to smell nice and l love a man who smells of brute mmm lovely nothing worse then smelly sweat they must be clean and tidy casual or otherwise l do not mind and l do not mind jeans no holes though.
i love ralph lauren polo sport - it's a clean fresh smell and shows a man likes to look and smell good
when the smell is good . Yes
i like D%26amp;G
sometimes it depends on what the aftershave smells like.
personally i do.
i love the smell of lynx!!!
anyone of them =)
I like a guy to smell clean. A little aftershave is okay, but don't over do it. I like something that chanel makes for men but i forgot the name- also I have a confession to make.
I've been buying my brother ';the thymes'; eucalyptus lotion/soap for years now- and girls love it. The thing is, it's made for girls, and he doesn't know it!!! One of my gay guy friends gave me the tip, and so I bought it for my brother O:)
212 %26amp; hugo energise, my boyfriend wears both %26amp; whenever i wrap my arms round him i linger a little longer just to smell him
Not really, it's very easy to overdo it and unless the man has BO or smokes alot just the way he smells without it is nice! Plus usually people have a faint scent from the washing powder used on clothes, the shampoo they've used, the deoderant they're wearing so too much scent, like from an aftershave, can be overpowering!
I like Versace-Blue Jeans and Joop, not sure which one tho :-S
lolGirls .....need advice....do you find aftershave on a man sexy?
incredibly sexy, i like CKone, Brute or just lynx deodorant, but don't go to heavy on any of them as you don't want people to be able to smell you before they can see you :-)Girls .....need advice....do you find aftershave on a man sexy?
depending on wat it is and if it doesnt stink i think it is very alluring my favourites on a man are giorgio armani acqua di gio and cerrutti 1880 because they smell so fresh and so clean and so sexy ;-)
eternity ck is sooo nice on a man also boss is very nice ... but as long as a man smells clean i wouldnt be fussy
Well I do like it when guys smell nice. If I'm getting up close to their face, it's nice to smell good things. haha.
No, not usually it's too strong.
I prefer Aramis cologne just dabbed on the pulse points. It's fresh, clean, yet sexy.
i like beer belly breath
as long as the smell isn't super strong
Stetson
YES!
I like the musky types!
But oldie's but goodie's that i love is Brut, %26amp;
Aqua Velva.
Well, it's alright if you don't overdo them. Anything is fine, actually.
Yes ..... i love paul smith for men very sexy smell .......
I also like d%26amp;g that smells very nice
I find it VERY sexy. Issey Miyake smells really good :) Burberry and DKNY too...
I like to smell nice and l love a man who smells of brute mmm lovely nothing worse then smelly sweat they must be clean and tidy casual or otherwise l do not mind and l do not mind jeans no holes though.
i love ralph lauren polo sport - it's a clean fresh smell and shows a man likes to look and smell good
when the smell is good . Yes
i like D%26amp;G
sometimes it depends on what the aftershave smells like.
personally i do.
i love the smell of lynx!!!
anyone of them =)
I like a guy to smell clean. A little aftershave is okay, but don't over do it. I like something that chanel makes for men but i forgot the name- also I have a confession to make.
I've been buying my brother ';the thymes'; eucalyptus lotion/soap for years now- and girls love it. The thing is, it's made for girls, and he doesn't know it!!! One of my gay guy friends gave me the tip, and so I bought it for my brother O:)
212 %26amp; hugo energise, my boyfriend wears both %26amp; whenever i wrap my arms round him i linger a little longer just to smell him
Not really, it's very easy to overdo it and unless the man has BO or smokes alot just the way he smells without it is nice! Plus usually people have a faint scent from the washing powder used on clothes, the shampoo they've used, the deoderant they're wearing so too much scent, like from an aftershave, can be overpowering!
I like Versace-Blue Jeans and Joop, not sure which one tho :-S
I need advice when Im going down on my man!!!!?
I love to suck his *you know what*!!! I just love it and I enjoy every minute of it. I mean I can do it for almost an hour and not get tired of it, I just LOVE it....N E ways, I was wondering....when Im going down on him and he is about to C**...';release';, should I just
Stop and let him ';release';
or
Keep sucking it up and down and put pressure on it.
How do guys like it? any advice?I need advice when Im going down on my man!!!!?
You need to ask him, because if he's like me, I like something different each time. In general though, I'd prefer she stopped as I c*um.I need advice when Im going down on my man!!!!?
i dont know if your open to it but keep sucking and let him release in your mouth and swallow, nothing gets a guy off more. When your giving a ******* think of it like a track race, you run through the finish line, not slow down just before it.
um I watched this documentray %26amp;* it said that right when your partners about c** you place two fingers in the space between his b@lls %26amp;* *** hole %26amp;* it intensifies his ejaculation
%26amp;* also while he's c*mming, if you lightly tug the shaft %26amp;* head that feels really good to the male as well .
:]
i like it when the girl keeps it up and gets me to *** 4-5 times in a roll without stopping and swallowing every drop
Whooooooooo
LAME,LAME,LAME,LAME
keep going at a slightly faster pace
i say keep going but that is just me
get faster as he's abt to *** .....u can come practice on me if u want
Ask him what he wants. You are trying to please him, not me. Right?
Regards,
Dan
my guy likes me to release him but gently touch his balls. Lol.
i like it when girls swallow my load while massaging my balls. Its the best.
hmm y dont u practice on me for a couple times?
Stop and let him ';release';
or
Keep sucking it up and down and put pressure on it.
How do guys like it? any advice?I need advice when Im going down on my man!!!!?
You need to ask him, because if he's like me, I like something different each time. In general though, I'd prefer she stopped as I c*um.I need advice when Im going down on my man!!!!?
i dont know if your open to it but keep sucking and let him release in your mouth and swallow, nothing gets a guy off more. When your giving a ******* think of it like a track race, you run through the finish line, not slow down just before it.
um I watched this documentray %26amp;* it said that right when your partners about c** you place two fingers in the space between his b@lls %26amp;* *** hole %26amp;* it intensifies his ejaculation
%26amp;* also while he's c*mming, if you lightly tug the shaft %26amp;* head that feels really good to the male as well .
:]
i like it when the girl keeps it up and gets me to *** 4-5 times in a roll without stopping and swallowing every drop
Whooooooooo
LAME,LAME,LAME,LAME
keep going at a slightly faster pace
i say keep going but that is just me
get faster as he's abt to *** .....u can come practice on me if u want
Ask him what he wants. You are trying to please him, not me. Right?
Regards,
Dan
my guy likes me to release him but gently touch his balls. Lol.
i like it when girls swallow my load while massaging my balls. Its the best.
hmm y dont u practice on me for a couple times?
You advice please on an ';otherwise wonderful'; man?
I'm dating a guy who is great. He is handsome (many women tell me so), he's an athlete, he's smart, and he treats me like a queen.
My issue is simple: He's only 5'7';. Somehow deep inside I still have this desire to be with a man's man that can ';protect';. He is very fit but he's doesn't have ';great big muscles';. I worry about whether he could actually defend me or our potential children if he were to become a father. Also, if we were to have children, and if they'd be boys, I wouldn't want them to have his stature.
I feel like a horribly shallow person for asking this but my question is whether I should stick the relationship out and try to overcome my dissatisfaction or do him the favor of ending things before we make a more serious commitment?You advice please on an ';otherwise wonderful'; man?
If you truly can't get past this, then yes, you should end things - but in my honest opinion, you'll be doing yourself a disservice if you don't try to get past your preconceptions. Size does not equal strength, whether it be physical or mental. And why place the burden of protection entirely on him? Don't you want your daughters to know how to defend themselves and set a good example for them?You advice please on an ';otherwise wonderful'; man?
Are you kidding me? You are horribly shallow. You're afraid he won't be able to 'protect'? Buy yourself a gun. And if you let him slip away over this don't come on here in a year bitching about how hard it is to find a great guy.
wow...thats all i gotta say...wow...
End it now,he deserves someone that will love all of him without ANY doubt.
Don't feel too bad, I prefer taller men also. But you do need to end it.
My issue is simple: He's only 5'7';. Somehow deep inside I still have this desire to be with a man's man that can ';protect';. He is very fit but he's doesn't have ';great big muscles';. I worry about whether he could actually defend me or our potential children if he were to become a father. Also, if we were to have children, and if they'd be boys, I wouldn't want them to have his stature.
I feel like a horribly shallow person for asking this but my question is whether I should stick the relationship out and try to overcome my dissatisfaction or do him the favor of ending things before we make a more serious commitment?You advice please on an ';otherwise wonderful'; man?
If you truly can't get past this, then yes, you should end things - but in my honest opinion, you'll be doing yourself a disservice if you don't try to get past your preconceptions. Size does not equal strength, whether it be physical or mental. And why place the burden of protection entirely on him? Don't you want your daughters to know how to defend themselves and set a good example for them?You advice please on an ';otherwise wonderful'; man?
Are you kidding me? You are horribly shallow. You're afraid he won't be able to 'protect'? Buy yourself a gun. And if you let him slip away over this don't come on here in a year bitching about how hard it is to find a great guy.
wow...thats all i gotta say...wow...
End it now,he deserves someone that will love all of him without ANY doubt.
Don't feel too bad, I prefer taller men also. But you do need to end it.
Can you give me some advice on how i can find a decent man i can date(im 17)???
i havent been able to find a decent man so far :(. i have many guy friends but i wouldnt want to be anything more other than friends with any of them.Can you give me some advice on how i can find a decent man i can date(im 17)???
The best piece of advice I can give you is that theirs someone out there for everyone :)Can you give me some advice on how i can find a decent man i can date(im 17)???
Do it quick. It gets harder and harder to meet people.
Find a new job or take up some different class. I suggest one that you will have to work with people. Most people meet the person they marry etc in school or at work. You get to know the person because it's work//school. You aren't that quickly to try and get with the person (most of the time) because you know you will have to see this person for awhile. Work at clothing store you like or some place where a lot of people come in and out and a lot of people work their. gL
-Life
just go up to guys you see at school or anywhere. chat them up. they'll love it. i would.
also, when you go to college it'll get even easier so don't worry.
other spots might be a library, coffee shop, bookstore, after school club. anywhere really. guys love girls. just go up to them and start chatting and flirting. they will get the message.
Dont try and rush into this. Do you go out on the town with friends etc? I'm sure you will meet the right man soon enough, Its just a matter of time. And you never know one might even approach you one day and it could be him.
Try volunteer with a group who's cause you're interested in or join a club. The latter is how I met my boyfriend. Though really, wait til you're a bit older and can date older guys. Most guys aren't decent til there 25 or so.
www.myspace.com
a useful place to look for people ur age and in ur local network!!! get in there it has worked for my friends
Try a church, I've been told this by a judge and a therapist.
Well, I met my husband (a lovely, kind, patient man) through church.... I actually met his parents first, and they liked me, and wanted me to meet their son, lol.
He was the third guy I dated, but the only one I was ever serious about. I met him when I was 20. (I only started dating when I was 18 - ie old enough to get married.)
Just keep making friends, and doing what is important to you. Eventually your perfect match will turn up... especially if you keep yourself busy in doing things that are meaningful to you.... because they will be meaningful to him, too.
i have many guy friends but i wouldnt want to be anything more other than friends with any of them.
Thats your problem
Too much going for the twats and not mates who have a crush on you.
If you like somone get flirty, skimpy look at be and my boobies clothes and any excuse to get touchy feely
You will have probabl;y heard this so many times before.....but im also 17, so not coming from an adult perpective. You will find someone when the time is right for you both, often when you least expect it. However, I would say look closer to home, its very difficult to go out (clubbing or whatever) and generate a relationship out of nowhere....look at the friends you have instead maybe. But dont rush into anything just to be in a relationship! enjoy being single too!
The best piece of advice I can give you is that theirs someone out there for everyone :)Can you give me some advice on how i can find a decent man i can date(im 17)???
Do it quick. It gets harder and harder to meet people.
Find a new job or take up some different class. I suggest one that you will have to work with people. Most people meet the person they marry etc in school or at work. You get to know the person because it's work//school. You aren't that quickly to try and get with the person (most of the time) because you know you will have to see this person for awhile. Work at clothing store you like or some place where a lot of people come in and out and a lot of people work their. gL
-Life
just go up to guys you see at school or anywhere. chat them up. they'll love it. i would.
also, when you go to college it'll get even easier so don't worry.
other spots might be a library, coffee shop, bookstore, after school club. anywhere really. guys love girls. just go up to them and start chatting and flirting. they will get the message.
Dont try and rush into this. Do you go out on the town with friends etc? I'm sure you will meet the right man soon enough, Its just a matter of time. And you never know one might even approach you one day and it could be him.
Try volunteer with a group who's cause you're interested in or join a club. The latter is how I met my boyfriend. Though really, wait til you're a bit older and can date older guys. Most guys aren't decent til there 25 or so.
www.myspace.com
a useful place to look for people ur age and in ur local network!!! get in there it has worked for my friends
Try a church, I've been told this by a judge and a therapist.
Well, I met my husband (a lovely, kind, patient man) through church.... I actually met his parents first, and they liked me, and wanted me to meet their son, lol.
He was the third guy I dated, but the only one I was ever serious about. I met him when I was 20. (I only started dating when I was 18 - ie old enough to get married.)
Just keep making friends, and doing what is important to you. Eventually your perfect match will turn up... especially if you keep yourself busy in doing things that are meaningful to you.... because they will be meaningful to him, too.
i have many guy friends but i wouldnt want to be anything more other than friends with any of them.
Thats your problem
Too much going for the twats and not mates who have a crush on you.
If you like somone get flirty, skimpy look at be and my boobies clothes and any excuse to get touchy feely
You will have probabl;y heard this so many times before.....but im also 17, so not coming from an adult perpective. You will find someone when the time is right for you both, often when you least expect it. However, I would say look closer to home, its very difficult to go out (clubbing or whatever) and generate a relationship out of nowhere....look at the friends you have instead maybe. But dont rush into anything just to be in a relationship! enjoy being single too!
Should I take the old man's advice? Or move on?
My girlfriend just broke up with me. We both really really like each other but she didn't have enough time to spend with me because of a working 40 hours a week on top of senior year. It's hard for me to let her go because I'm crazy about her but it was her decision and I'm not going to get mad at her about it and ruin what we still have.
But I was talking to my grandpa about it today. He said I should 'still put my bid in'. Meaning if that's the only reason why we broke up and I'm still crazy about her and she still likes me, go for it again and try to win her back. But should I go for this? If I do, how would I do it? How would I convince her?
Thank you so very much.Should I take the old man's advice? Or move on?
If she was truthful about her reasons for breaking up with you, then yes, there should still be a chance, and I would have to say that her reason is a noble one. I don't know about trying to convince her that she should be with you though. I think it would be enough to maintain a strong enough presence in her life so that she can see that breaking up with you probably wasn't the best decision. Good luck!
Should I take the old man's advice? Or move on?
What you have going for you is that she is a full time student with a full time job and cant possibly have time for another guy. You can take your grandfather's advice - but remember - she still isnt going to have time for a relationship - so how much time do you really expect to spend with her - and is that enough for you - and is she going to be able to handle all of this without any sleep . . .
I think gramps is right. If you like her this much then go for it. lifes too short as it is. Tell her that you know she doesnt have allot of time right now but you still like her and are willing to wait for her if she will just take you back. This should totally work. But dont say anything that you dont mean. It sounds like you two have something special. I wouldnt let it get go without a fight.
So you dont wanna do anything about it but your grampa tells you to... well um I would...actually i dont know im stumped lol... Dont just let it slide away from you. But dont force it back either...
But I was talking to my grandpa about it today. He said I should 'still put my bid in'. Meaning if that's the only reason why we broke up and I'm still crazy about her and she still likes me, go for it again and try to win her back. But should I go for this? If I do, how would I do it? How would I convince her?
Thank you so very much.Should I take the old man's advice? Or move on?
If she was truthful about her reasons for breaking up with you, then yes, there should still be a chance, and I would have to say that her reason is a noble one. I don't know about trying to convince her that she should be with you though. I think it would be enough to maintain a strong enough presence in her life so that she can see that breaking up with you probably wasn't the best decision. Good luck!
Should I take the old man's advice? Or move on?
What you have going for you is that she is a full time student with a full time job and cant possibly have time for another guy. You can take your grandfather's advice - but remember - she still isnt going to have time for a relationship - so how much time do you really expect to spend with her - and is that enough for you - and is she going to be able to handle all of this without any sleep . . .
I think gramps is right. If you like her this much then go for it. lifes too short as it is. Tell her that you know she doesnt have allot of time right now but you still like her and are willing to wait for her if she will just take you back. This should totally work. But dont say anything that you dont mean. It sounds like you two have something special. I wouldnt let it get go without a fight.
So you dont wanna do anything about it but your grampa tells you to... well um I would...actually i dont know im stumped lol... Dont just let it slide away from you. But dont force it back either...
Advice please on seeing a married man?
HERE'S MY STORY.I MET THIS GUY ABOUT 19 YEARS AGO,HE WAS MARRIED WITH A PREGNANT WIFE OF 2 YEARS.STARTED OUT JUST AS FRIENDSHIP THEN GREW INTO MORE. I WAS ALSO MARRIED .WHEN I REALIZED I HAD DEVELOPED STONG FEELINGS FOR HIM,I DIVORCED MY HUSBAND,BUT BECAUSE HE WAS ABUSIVE NOT FOR THE OTHER MAN.I STOPPED SEEING THE OTHER MAN AFTER 6 OR 8 MONTHS AND MOVED ON.I THEN REMARRIED AND HAD A CHILD AND TRIED TO FORGET ABOUT THIS OTHER MAN.AFTER 3 YEARS I THREW IN THE TOWEL WITH MY THEN HUSBAND,AND DIVORCED HIM ALSO BUT FOR REASONS I DO NOT CARE TO MENTION.I RAN INTO THE OTHER MAN AND WE PICKED UP RIGHT WHERE WE LEFT OFF AND I CONTINUED TO SEE HIM FOR ABOUT A YEAR OFF AND ON.I AGAIN BROKE IT OFF BECAUSE I KNEW IT WAS WRONG.SO I MET SOMEONE NEW AND WHILE WE WERE DATING THE OTHER MAN COMES TO ME AND WANTS TO SEE ME AGAIN BUT I CUT HIM OFF.I EVENTUALLY MARRIED THE MAN I'M WITH NOW AND HAVE BEEN FOR 10 YEARS.WITH IN THE PAST YEAR I RAN INTO THE OTHER MAN AGAIN AND WE STARTED TALKING AGAIN. THIS TIME IS DIFFERENT FROM THE TIMES BEFORE.HE TOLD ME HE LOVED ME AND THAT HE WAS GOING TO LEAVE HIS WIFE.I HAVE NEVER ASKED OR EVEN INSINUATED THAT I WANTED HIM TO END HIS MARRIAGE WITH HER.EVEN THOUGH I SO DESPERATLEY DO.HE SAYS HE WILL LEAVE HER ONCE HE CAN TRUST THAT I WON'T WALK OUT ON HIM LIKE I DID MY OTHER HUSBANDS.HE SAYS THAT HE FEELS LIKE I THINK OF HIM AS A CHALLENGE AND ONCE I GET HIM I'LL PROBALLY NOT WANT HIM ANYMORE SO THAT IS WHY HE NEEDS MORE TIME TO SEE IF MY FEELINGS FOR HIM ARE GENUINE. I TRULY LOVE THIS MAN. I HAVE FOR 20 YEARS NOW AND NO MATTER HOW HARD I TRY TO MOVE ON AND FORGET ABOUT HIM I JUST CAN'T.BY THE WAY HE TOLD ME HE LOVED ME FIRST.HE HAS BEEN CALLING ME EVERYDAY SINCE WE STARTED TALKING AGAIN AND WE SEE EACH OTHER OFTEN EVEN IF IT'S JUST FOR A FEW MINUTES.WE DON'T ALWAYS ENGAGE IN SEX,MOST OF THE TIME IT IS JUST TALKING. HE SAYS HE JUST WANTS TO BE NEAR ME AND SEE MY FACE AND HOLD ME.I KNOW WHAT WE ARE DOING IS WRONG AND I ASKED HIM IF HE EVER FEELS GUILTY AND HE SAID NOT REALLY BECAUSE HE TRULY LOVES ME. HE DOES LOVE HIS WIFE BUT NOT THE WAY HE LOVES ME.DOES ANYBODY WHO'S BEEN IN THIS SITUATION HAVE ANY ADVICE FOR ME?Advice please on seeing a married man?
You didn't have to say you don't always engage in sex... After so many years I get that....
He says all those things about how he wants to be with you and the reasons why... I'm inclined to believe him... You should know better than anyone else here if you might be happy with him full time.
He loves his wife though and so what if it's not the same love.. He loves her and that's important. Anyone can say the L word but give him a chance to prove it. If he's going to leave his wife he doesn't need encouragement to do that... He does need you're reassurance that he's the only one you have ever truly loved... Work on showing him that... And he knows what he needs to do.
I'm not being critical but If I were him... I would want the same reassurance as he has asked for (more time). What to do? Wow.... Be with him.... You love him like no other.
Incredible story by the way ~ Makes me feel like I'm just getting started. Thanks for sharing!
Advice please on seeing a married man?
If both of you like each other, continue the hidden relationship. Nothing wrong is doing what you like to do. Just enjoy the remaining life.
Yes...stop seeing him. Tell him to call when he is divorced. Then you will know if he really loves you. Also, stop typing in all caps.
IT'S CALLED ADULTERY.
STOP YELLING AT MEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!
Hi i think you two are well matched,how would you like it if your present husband was sneaking around with an old girlfriend and you where not seeing this other man,it would come like a bolt of bloody lighting out of the blue,the truth is both of you are not happy in yourselves,that's why you are both sneaking around,im not being catty with you,im being dead straight,how, in gods name is a relationship like that ever going to last,it wont %26amp; you know it,you are both lusting after each other,and don't care who you hurt as long as you are ok,well if you get with him,do you think that he will be loyal %26amp; faith-full to you,i would bet money on it that he will be up to his oul tricks all over again,its the rush he gets out of sneaking around and doesn't care who he hurts,could you love a man who doesn't care about anybody but himself,and he is number 1,but he is good with the oul talk,he wants you to commit first,so you have to break up another marriage for him,if you have any sense at all you will stay well away from him,or if you want more regrets go with him,but i will tell you something and these words will haunt you for as long as you are with him,he will do the dirt on you at the first chance he gets,set him up with some young girl and see if im right he is a dirt-bird get rid of him,
martin.
He is not leaving her. It is like jumping in a pool with a friend. You stand at the edge, holding hands. At the count of 3, we both jump in. And inevitably, one person jump and the other stand there laughing.
You are both married. He say let's both get divorced so that we can be together. He wants you to dump the relationship you are in and he will be standing there with his family! If he didn't leave her before, why would he leave her now! His main goal is to ruin your marriage so he can have you all to himself! And you will still be sharing him. Get some counseling before you call marriage #3 off!
AND GET SOME BACKBONE. NEVER START A SENTENCE WITH 'I KNOW THIS IS WRONG, BUT...'
Don't do it! Stop what you are doing now! I've been down that road and let me tell you karma or whatever you want to call it is real! It will come back around to get you for what you are doing to your current husband and to this mans wife. Why do you think all of your marriages are falling apart? If you divorce again and break up this mans home I guarantee the two of you will not end happily ever after. If it truly was such a deep love you two would have made it work two marriages ago. The next time you have sex with him go home and look your husband in the eye and try to honestly tell him you love him without feeling like a total piece of sh!t. Think of the other lives involved instead of just thinking of yourself, how would you feel if your husband was calling out someone else's name in bed while you were'nt around? It's wrong and you know it and that's why you are asking on here trying to get sympathy or for someone to tell you what you want to here. Well I don't think thats going to happen so stop it.
Yes, my advise is to NOT have contact with a married man period. You've already ruined your own life, why do it to another. Sounds like you need some serious counseling as to why you feel the need to keep going in and out of toxic relationships.
If he's married, he's married - hands off!blackheads eraser
You didn't have to say you don't always engage in sex... After so many years I get that....
He says all those things about how he wants to be with you and the reasons why... I'm inclined to believe him... You should know better than anyone else here if you might be happy with him full time.
He loves his wife though and so what if it's not the same love.. He loves her and that's important. Anyone can say the L word but give him a chance to prove it. If he's going to leave his wife he doesn't need encouragement to do that... He does need you're reassurance that he's the only one you have ever truly loved... Work on showing him that... And he knows what he needs to do.
I'm not being critical but If I were him... I would want the same reassurance as he has asked for (more time). What to do? Wow.... Be with him.... You love him like no other.
Incredible story by the way ~ Makes me feel like I'm just getting started. Thanks for sharing!
Advice please on seeing a married man?
If both of you like each other, continue the hidden relationship. Nothing wrong is doing what you like to do. Just enjoy the remaining life.
Yes...stop seeing him. Tell him to call when he is divorced. Then you will know if he really loves you. Also, stop typing in all caps.
IT'S CALLED ADULTERY.
STOP YELLING AT MEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!
Hi i think you two are well matched,how would you like it if your present husband was sneaking around with an old girlfriend and you where not seeing this other man,it would come like a bolt of bloody lighting out of the blue,the truth is both of you are not happy in yourselves,that's why you are both sneaking around,im not being catty with you,im being dead straight,how, in gods name is a relationship like that ever going to last,it wont %26amp; you know it,you are both lusting after each other,and don't care who you hurt as long as you are ok,well if you get with him,do you think that he will be loyal %26amp; faith-full to you,i would bet money on it that he will be up to his oul tricks all over again,its the rush he gets out of sneaking around and doesn't care who he hurts,could you love a man who doesn't care about anybody but himself,and he is number 1,but he is good with the oul talk,he wants you to commit first,so you have to break up another marriage for him,if you have any sense at all you will stay well away from him,or if you want more regrets go with him,but i will tell you something and these words will haunt you for as long as you are with him,he will do the dirt on you at the first chance he gets,set him up with some young girl and see if im right he is a dirt-bird get rid of him,
martin.
He is not leaving her. It is like jumping in a pool with a friend. You stand at the edge, holding hands. At the count of 3, we both jump in. And inevitably, one person jump and the other stand there laughing.
You are both married. He say let's both get divorced so that we can be together. He wants you to dump the relationship you are in and he will be standing there with his family! If he didn't leave her before, why would he leave her now! His main goal is to ruin your marriage so he can have you all to himself! And you will still be sharing him. Get some counseling before you call marriage #3 off!
AND GET SOME BACKBONE. NEVER START A SENTENCE WITH 'I KNOW THIS IS WRONG, BUT...'
Don't do it! Stop what you are doing now! I've been down that road and let me tell you karma or whatever you want to call it is real! It will come back around to get you for what you are doing to your current husband and to this mans wife. Why do you think all of your marriages are falling apart? If you divorce again and break up this mans home I guarantee the two of you will not end happily ever after. If it truly was such a deep love you two would have made it work two marriages ago. The next time you have sex with him go home and look your husband in the eye and try to honestly tell him you love him without feeling like a total piece of sh!t. Think of the other lives involved instead of just thinking of yourself, how would you feel if your husband was calling out someone else's name in bed while you were'nt around? It's wrong and you know it and that's why you are asking on here trying to get sympathy or for someone to tell you what you want to here. Well I don't think thats going to happen so stop it.
Yes, my advise is to NOT have contact with a married man period. You've already ruined your own life, why do it to another. Sounds like you need some serious counseling as to why you feel the need to keep going in and out of toxic relationships.
If he's married, he's married - hands off!
Any advice on how to keep an Italian's man interest???
I'm from Europe i know they are very gelous dont pay him that much attention just because you like his accent and don't give him to much sex make him whait ;-)Any advice on how to keep an Italian's man interest???
garlic, they love garlic.Any advice on how to keep an Italian's man interest???
speak italian
Get him a nice expresso maker.
Get to know his Mother. If she likes you. You'r golden.
They all love their mother.
Same as any other, Make him think he is the only man in the world you both enjoy every min, you have with each other also, depending on your age, from my own experiences, Italian men are ALOT!!! more sexual!!
give him italian food
for any man, sex, (if there is any man there who contradicts, ur not true to yourself). but of course, sex is not the only thing u should offer, and even the with sex u have to be creative
Well, I think you are going on the misconception that ALL Italian men have had many lovers and have done everything. To keep ANY man's interest BE YOURSELF. If he doesn't like you for you, then you are wasting your time on him.
eat snails
garlic, they love garlic.Any advice on how to keep an Italian's man interest???
speak italian
Get him a nice expresso maker.
Get to know his Mother. If she likes you. You'r golden.
They all love their mother.
Same as any other, Make him think he is the only man in the world you both enjoy every min, you have with each other also, depending on your age, from my own experiences, Italian men are ALOT!!! more sexual!!
give him italian food
for any man, sex, (if there is any man there who contradicts, ur not true to yourself). but of course, sex is not the only thing u should offer, and even the with sex u have to be creative
Well, I think you are going on the misconception that ALL Italian men have had many lovers and have done everything. To keep ANY man's interest BE YOURSELF. If he doesn't like you for you, then you are wasting your time on him.
eat snails
ANY advice on how I should act with an man who is an aries??
with a gemini mOoon!
Quick recap... I met him, went to starbuck, casual chatting online, 2nd time met at a bar did not see alot of interest..more casual chatting online...3rd time we missed each other at a club and at 2 am he asked me come over to his apt ( yes I know booty call) didn't give it up but there was some major kissing involved...and now what ? he has retreated how should I react?/ does this sound like typical aries behavior??? someonee!!!ANY advice on how I should act with an man who is an aries??
Very typical
RUN awayANY advice on how I should act with an man who is an aries??
Str8 up don't beat around the bush b/c arians love to get right down to business!
wow maybe u should confront him and ask him if he still has feelings 4 you you can go to astrology.com probably and find out about aries %26lt;i am sure there r other horoscope and astrology websites if u search the web%26gt;
be loving
Hey now; not all Aries are bad people! I am an Aries female and my best friend is an Aries male. My husband is Aquarius and boy does he just have a great laugh when me and my best friend starting cutting up!
Your guy could be a jerk Aries or he could be one of the good Aries; there are ';higher'; and ';lower'; of all the signs. Read the descriptions below; if the ';lower'; sounds more like him then take the lady's advice and RUN!
I cannot recall which web site I found this information; however I have found it to be a great guideline to go by.
The ';higher'; type of Ariens successfully control the emanating energy, take good advantage of their efforts and capabilities, and use their abilities to the full maximum. They will unselfishly help others and act in the spirit of togetherness, a property that they appreciate in others as well. Whatever they undertake, they go ahead with courage tearing down, and not avoiding barriers. In this move forward, they rely on their fighting instinct, which tells them through instincts what to do.
On the other hand the ';lower'; type of Ariens are persons of self-willing and egoistic character, which can best be described as dictators. All who can stay away from them, and instead of virtue they impose themselves with faults. They push forward and everywhere not waiting their turn, very often uninvited and incompetent.
Aries Male
Are you in love with an Aries man? You`ve got quite a macho man on your hands! Ruled by Mars, the hot, red, active planet, the Aries man is known as the ';warrior.'; Fearless and brave, active and entrepreneurial, he is eager for new experiences. Your man is never ever boring!
Your Challenge
To get his attention away from his constant business wheelings and dealings, and to cater to his substantial physical needs.
How To Handle Him
If this is your first date with an Aries, choose something daring to do. Aries, the lover of risk and adventure, is apt to enjoy activities with you that could include hang gliding, bungee jumping or car racing. The Aries man`s credo is he`ll try anything once. Use this to turn his mind away from everyday business matters and focus on you. Being such a testosterone-charged and masculine sign, Aries needs a regular, highly active sex life. He is apt to be aggressive and spontaneous, and this is one man who likes to take the lead. At the same time, the Aries man is highly protective of his lover, being quite willing to fight (literally or figuratively) for her, and this is a big part of his appeal. Be gentle with this ego, though. If you`re not ';in the mood'; he might take the slightest
rejection quite hard.
Aries likes a challenge, so you could tease him a bit when he starts getting bossy, keeping what he wants out of reach until the end of the pursuit. If trying to win an argument, the smart partner of an Aries man will subtly convince him that her ideas are really his ideas. Some Aries men have a roving eye, which is not an attractive quality, so to keep him playing in his own back yard, keep your body sleek, your lingerie sexy (a few skimpy pieces in his favorite color, red, would be a good idea) and the lights low
(candlelight is perfect--Aries rules fire). Most of all, keep him guessing because he loves the thrill of the chase.
Things To Do, Gifts To Buy
Want to surprise him? Cook him a spicy dinner, perhaps omething Tex Mex--or--just tease him by putting a jalapeno pepper in your mouth and dare him to bite it gently (a la 9 1/2 Weeks). Then alternnate sweet flavors with spicy (Aries rules spicy flavors). That`s a way to get his attention!
In terms of gifts, the Aries man likes an experience rather than something tangible. You might buy tickets to a boxing match or an exciting basketball game where he can get all worked up and scream his lungs out--all the better to get his lusty self in bed later that evening.
Quick recap... I met him, went to starbuck, casual chatting online, 2nd time met at a bar did not see alot of interest..more casual chatting online...3rd time we missed each other at a club and at 2 am he asked me come over to his apt ( yes I know booty call) didn't give it up but there was some major kissing involved...and now what ? he has retreated how should I react?/ does this sound like typical aries behavior??? someonee!!!ANY advice on how I should act with an man who is an aries??
Very typical
RUN awayANY advice on how I should act with an man who is an aries??
Str8 up don't beat around the bush b/c arians love to get right down to business!
wow maybe u should confront him and ask him if he still has feelings 4 you you can go to astrology.com probably and find out about aries %26lt;i am sure there r other horoscope and astrology websites if u search the web%26gt;
be loving
Hey now; not all Aries are bad people! I am an Aries female and my best friend is an Aries male. My husband is Aquarius and boy does he just have a great laugh when me and my best friend starting cutting up!
Your guy could be a jerk Aries or he could be one of the good Aries; there are ';higher'; and ';lower'; of all the signs. Read the descriptions below; if the ';lower'; sounds more like him then take the lady's advice and RUN!
I cannot recall which web site I found this information; however I have found it to be a great guideline to go by.
The ';higher'; type of Ariens successfully control the emanating energy, take good advantage of their efforts and capabilities, and use their abilities to the full maximum. They will unselfishly help others and act in the spirit of togetherness, a property that they appreciate in others as well. Whatever they undertake, they go ahead with courage tearing down, and not avoiding barriers. In this move forward, they rely on their fighting instinct, which tells them through instincts what to do.
On the other hand the ';lower'; type of Ariens are persons of self-willing and egoistic character, which can best be described as dictators. All who can stay away from them, and instead of virtue they impose themselves with faults. They push forward and everywhere not waiting their turn, very often uninvited and incompetent.
Aries Male
Are you in love with an Aries man? You`ve got quite a macho man on your hands! Ruled by Mars, the hot, red, active planet, the Aries man is known as the ';warrior.'; Fearless and brave, active and entrepreneurial, he is eager for new experiences. Your man is never ever boring!
Your Challenge
To get his attention away from his constant business wheelings and dealings, and to cater to his substantial physical needs.
How To Handle Him
If this is your first date with an Aries, choose something daring to do. Aries, the lover of risk and adventure, is apt to enjoy activities with you that could include hang gliding, bungee jumping or car racing. The Aries man`s credo is he`ll try anything once. Use this to turn his mind away from everyday business matters and focus on you. Being such a testosterone-charged and masculine sign, Aries needs a regular, highly active sex life. He is apt to be aggressive and spontaneous, and this is one man who likes to take the lead. At the same time, the Aries man is highly protective of his lover, being quite willing to fight (literally or figuratively) for her, and this is a big part of his appeal. Be gentle with this ego, though. If you`re not ';in the mood'; he might take the slightest
rejection quite hard.
Aries likes a challenge, so you could tease him a bit when he starts getting bossy, keeping what he wants out of reach until the end of the pursuit. If trying to win an argument, the smart partner of an Aries man will subtly convince him that her ideas are really his ideas. Some Aries men have a roving eye, which is not an attractive quality, so to keep him playing in his own back yard, keep your body sleek, your lingerie sexy (a few skimpy pieces in his favorite color, red, would be a good idea) and the lights low
(candlelight is perfect--Aries rules fire). Most of all, keep him guessing because he loves the thrill of the chase.
Things To Do, Gifts To Buy
Want to surprise him? Cook him a spicy dinner, perhaps omething Tex Mex--or--just tease him by putting a jalapeno pepper in your mouth and dare him to bite it gently (a la 9 1/2 Weeks). Then alternnate sweet flavors with spicy (Aries rules spicy flavors). That`s a way to get his attention!
In terms of gifts, the Aries man likes an experience rather than something tangible. You might buy tickets to a boxing match or an exciting basketball game where he can get all worked up and scream his lungs out--all the better to get his lusty self in bed later that evening.
Need some advice on composing casual and business cloths for a man. Additional need: travels a lot?
Casual: First think where you are going to. Check the weather reports of the area first. Medium weight black denim pants, long sleeve turtlenecks, quarter zip-up flannel jackets. Light weight full fingered black cloth gloves work very well. Business: Dark Grey suits are very forgiving of food mistakes. Silk or good wool work best. Don't go for leather tie in Japan or Germany or Israel. It's not a good idea.
Any one have any advice on winning the heart of a danish man? any danes out there have any suggestions?
I am IN LOVE with a danish man, he has been here all year, now is going back to denmark. Not sure how he feels at all, since he is sending very mixed messages, has said he's just want to be friends since he's going back home, but acts differently.
This may sound silly and pointless, I am NOT one to be boy crazy or irrational about relationships - and this isn't a young 'puppy love' thing, it's very real, and I really care very much for him, we have a connection that i've never felt with anyone (otherwise i wouldn't even bother with this seemingly impossible situation!)
He has thought about staying here, then decided to go back to denmark. NOT very experienced in relationships, not ready for big commitment. What can i do to make him reconsider, or at least to keep him thinking of me while he's gone? I want to respect any cultural differences we may have too, don't want to overwhelm him or drive him away....
THANK YOU and happy holidays!!!!!Any one have any advice on winning the heart of a danish man? any danes out there have any suggestions?
Hmm. Danes aren't that different than other ppl so you dont really have to think about cultural differences... (where are you from btw?)
I am from Denmark myself...
You seem pretty crazy for him. Why dont you tell him? ;-)
I understand if he is confused because he is not used to have a relationship - maybe a long-distance relationship is not the best for a ';beginner'; :-/
...but if he has felt something for you, you should give it a try.
Try to write to him a lot. Make him feel comfortable by talking to you. Try also to write some cute things in danish ;-) (some danes are very proud of their language) - impress him ; )
';hi'; = ';hej';
';How are you?'; = ';Hvordan gæ°“r det?';
***answer***
';I'm fine'; = ';Det gæ°“r fint';
';I miss you'; = ';Jeg savner dig';
';Merry Christmas'; = ';Glå¿™delig Jul';
';Happy newyear!'; = ';Godt nytæ°“r!';
';Sleep tight'; = ';Sov godt';
';Goodnight'; = ';godnat';
';Good morning'; = ';god morgen';
';Hello, handsome'; = ';Hej smukke';
';You are handsome'; = ';Du er smuk';
';Yes'; = ';ja';
';no'; = ';nej';
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we have some strange letters in danish ';忙酶氓';
you can write like:
';å¿™'; = ';ae';
';é…¶'; = ';oe';
';æ°“'; = ';aa';
Good luck!! ^_^
This may sound silly and pointless, I am NOT one to be boy crazy or irrational about relationships - and this isn't a young 'puppy love' thing, it's very real, and I really care very much for him, we have a connection that i've never felt with anyone (otherwise i wouldn't even bother with this seemingly impossible situation!)
He has thought about staying here, then decided to go back to denmark. NOT very experienced in relationships, not ready for big commitment. What can i do to make him reconsider, or at least to keep him thinking of me while he's gone? I want to respect any cultural differences we may have too, don't want to overwhelm him or drive him away....
THANK YOU and happy holidays!!!!!Any one have any advice on winning the heart of a danish man? any danes out there have any suggestions?
Hmm. Danes aren't that different than other ppl so you dont really have to think about cultural differences... (where are you from btw?)
I am from Denmark myself...
You seem pretty crazy for him. Why dont you tell him? ;-)
I understand if he is confused because he is not used to have a relationship - maybe a long-distance relationship is not the best for a ';beginner'; :-/
...but if he has felt something for you, you should give it a try.
Try to write to him a lot. Make him feel comfortable by talking to you. Try also to write some cute things in danish ;-) (some danes are very proud of their language) - impress him ; )
';hi'; = ';hej';
';How are you?'; = ';Hvordan gæ°“r det?';
***answer***
';I'm fine'; = ';Det gæ°“r fint';
';I miss you'; = ';Jeg savner dig';
';Merry Christmas'; = ';Glå¿™delig Jul';
';Happy newyear!'; = ';Godt nytæ°“r!';
';Sleep tight'; = ';Sov godt';
';Goodnight'; = ';godnat';
';Good morning'; = ';god morgen';
';Hello, handsome'; = ';Hej smukke';
';You are handsome'; = ';Du er smuk';
';Yes'; = ';ja';
';no'; = ';nej';
--------------------------------------鈥?br>
we have some strange letters in danish ';忙酶氓';
you can write like:
';å¿™'; = ';ae';
';é…¶'; = ';oe';
';æ°“'; = ';aa';
Good luck!! ^_^
Does anyone have any advice on getting over an affair with a married man?
I need some advice. I was in a relationship with a married man for over a year. His marriage was in trouble (or so he said), he told me he loved me, wanted to be with me, blah, blah, blah. He knew I was a lonely, vulnerable single mom. Of course, he decided not to see me anymore, confessed to his wife what happened, and decided to work on his marriage. I have since talked to his wife and she told me that he never loved me and he was just using me for sex. I am completely devasted. I am so embarrased and ashamed. I have found out that his wife is going around town talking bad about me to people we mutually know. I have never been involved with a married man before and will never do it again. The problem is I don't know how to pick up the pieces of my life. I have fallen into a depression and it scares me because I have a little girl to take care of. Does anyone have any helpful advice on how to get over this?Does anyone have any advice on getting over an affair with a married man?
I am in the same shoes you are in... the only difference was before the affair me and the man were friends and his wife was my best friend. I was also told he was only using me for sex and it also devestated me. It has been only a year ago since this happened and I can honestly tell you that you will never get over it. It is something you will never forget... the one thing I would mention to you is go to counseling it really helps. It helped me alot to talk to someone about things make sure it is an unbiased party though! When you go around town hold your head up... don't let him take your diginity. Remember it takes two to tango and you are not the only one at fault here! He is just as guilty as you are and he is somewhat more guilty than you are. He was the one with the commitment not you... and he betrayed that! Don't try to hide how you feel be honest with yourself. Don't hold your feelings in. Most of all be true to your self. you will come out of this better than what you were before this. Just remember that we all make mistakes and yes while some are worst than others I know you can get through this... I did and I know you can too! If you need anyone to talk to feel free to e-mail me at hbeth06@yahoo like I have told you I have been in your shoes and I feel the pain. Remember you don't have to go through this alone.Does anyone have any advice on getting over an affair with a married man?
Feng Shway (sp) Its amazing! Just change small things in your every day life and you start feeling better.... Like... re arrange your house, apt, bedroom, refridgerator... Stuff like that... I use to go threw my closet and decide what I dont like and what I do like... And every time Im down I do this and I ALWAYS feel better. I've told lots of people about this, and my friends do it now too. Small changes in your every day life affect you greatly. Just keep your mind occupied and your heart will get better. Good luck babe!
First of all, dont do it! Second....go for another one!
get him n person and kick him square in the nuts!!
No use starting with u deserve it u knew he was married.So u need 2 get on with life for urself / daughter.WE all make mistakes Best advise I can give u is hold ur head high / get back down 2 earth.I don not believe any 1 is so perfect they can cast stones.The wife who is saying things about u needs 2 remember it took 2 / her husband was just as guilty.So she is talking about her family as well.So she is needs 2 look at her marriage why did he go else where ?.I am not conducing what happened but it did take 2.You realize ur mistake it is over so (smile)and move on
Um i think you deserve to suffer and i think that karma is a Beotch!!! And you have a kid what kind of teaching is that? I hope you understand you have set your daughter up for alot of heart break!!!! Worry about your kid and not your love life
I realize you were in the wrong, however my heart goes out to you as well. We all do things because we have needs that aren't met. Sometimes the things we choose are just pretty stupid, but we choose them just the same. I'm married, a difficult marriage, but married just the same. I met a man, also married, difficult marriage but married all the same...we've not had a physical affair but we've had what I call an emotional affair for a couple years now. We did meet once, kissed...but I won't let it happen again and I won't have sex with him. As odd as this sounds, I am committed to my marriage, but he gave me things I needed like understanding, a listening ear, kindess and love...just not sex. Well, he decided he needed more and now has a mistress. He's also one of the odd ones and he's leaving his wife for this woman. He told the woman about us and she wants him to stop talking to me. He said he's really having a difficult time because he really feels he's in love with this woman (his poor wife) but can't stop thinking about me blah blah blah...and he doesn't want to blow it with this other woman (again, his poor wife) but doesn't want to stop talking to me BUT....so, we're not going to talk any more. He's become a very dear friend and I love him very much and am going to miss him like crazy. I feel jilted in a very odd sense and can't seem to get it out of my mind either. One thing I have done that seems to be helping is replacing the thought with a prayer every time it enters my mind. I repeat the Lord's Prayer or the 23rd Psalm. Maybe if you have something that makes you feel good that you have memorized you can repeat it over and over in your head when the painful thoughts enter in. Another thing that helps is to make a scrapbook of sorts of goals and things you love... look at them when you start to feel the pain. It could be flowers or the ocean or your daughter, anything that brings you peace. Love is an interesting thing, forbidden or not. I wish you well... time will heal this wound, but it will leave a scar. Yeah, his wife is hurting too...and maybe under different circumstances you would have been friends. Guess all you can do is realize she's full of her pain as well. Good luck sister, and hold your head high. You're strong, you're gonna be ok. :)
I think you need to realize that his wife told you that he never loved you because she was trying to hurt you. She doesn't know if he did or didn't. He probably told her that he didn't love you, just to save his marriage. Having been there, I am sure he did love you. Also, she is spreading rumors to mutual friends to hurt you again. If you are confronted by someone else about it, you need to say something like, ';she wouldn't do what he needed, so I rocked his world';. You aren't the bad person here. If anyone is to be bad, it's him for doing it without his wife knowing, or her because she is hateful. You are the innocent party. As for never having a relationship with a married man, don't do it unless you know that you are doing it for YOUR pleasure. Also, in your next relationship, even if he isn't married, you need to be in that relationship for your good, not his. You need to be satisfied prior to committing to him. Don't let him get into your family. Don't let your daughter get attached to him. When you get to the point that you want to be married to him, then you can start letting down your guards. Until then, do it for your pleasure. As for getting over the last guy, do what your mother always told you to do. Wash your face and be polite. Good Luck
Firstly, you might have foreseen this coming. Not to be the voice of 'I told you so', because that's not what you need right now. Plus, you've already realized what sort of trouble can come from this sort of thing.
That being said, let's cast some perspective. Thins being what they are, they wifey is going to say anything and everything that she can to hurt your feelings, as she is childish and doesn't want to place her anger where it needs to be, on the shoulders of her hubby, instead of at your feet.
As for all of her venom, you can't control that, its a lost cause, so forget trying to salvage your image in the eyes of those people whose ears she poured that poison, either they'll see that what she'd said isn't true, based on how you act, rather than the words she'd thrown at them, or they won't. Either way, its nothing that you can control.
Here's the important part.
Look at your daughter. Right into her eyes and let her know how much you love her. Make a pact with yourself that SHE is more important to you than anything else that this crappy world can throw at you, and that from this moment on, no matter what, everything you will ever do will be for the greater good of that little girl.
After that, get up off of your knees, assuming that your little girl is that short, make you both a peanut butter and jelly sandwich and go to the park and push her on the swings.
Tomorrow will always be a better day for you.
Sweet heart... you made a mistake and now you are paying for the consequences... it was a dangerous mistake, since you have mutual friends, and so you can't just disappear... but in time, it will boil over... like everything else in life...
You need to give yourself time to heal... go to the gym, lose a couple of pounds, clean up a closet... do something that gives you a sense of accomplishment... take your daughter to some place that you have been meaning to take her for a long time...
Just keep busy and let time do some healing...
You are going through hell, so just keep going and it will end pretty soon... you will be a much stronger, wiser person after this... but you have to pull yourself up, nobody else can do that for you... do it for your daughter... she needs to have a role model, a strong independent mom...
Hope this helps... wish all the best...
sorry to hear that if you want to pick up the pices YOU MUST MOVE ON BABY be strong for your little girl the same thing happend to me once so i know what you are going throuh email me mabey i can comfort you some
get mad
use your anger to go on
the man lied to you
he used you
i would be pissed
but instead of doing something negative use the energy from your anger to do something positive
his wife is going around bad mouthing you because she is angry too
but she shouldn't be angry at you
she should be angry at that two-faced, lying, cheater of a husband and be taking it out of him
tell your mutual friends that you are as much a victim as his wife is
I don鈥檛 think you will receive the counseling you need in here. I will pray for you.
It's all right there. You were a dumbass and you know it. Now just get over it and promise to now do such a stupid thing again.
Well, duh. I'm sorry, but if you didn't know that this was going to eventually happen, then you're an idiot. You were the 'other' woman for him, and he didn't care about you. They do just use you.
I don't understand why anyone would have an affair with a married man knowingly, anyway. o: They always dump you for their wife. They're MARRIED for goodness' sake.
I think you should be embarrassed and ashamed. I have no sympathy for people who want to break up a marriage. :| Sorry.
gather some friends of your and have a girls night out. find a single man. you should had dropped that guy when you found out that he was married. if you like to chat more email me.
Wow this is the same thing i am going through...Mine said he loved me and everything. He also said he was not happy with his marriage anymore. It went on for a few months it was great at first until the feelings started and he changed it by saying ';I love you';. I ended it, took him back and ended it again. I feel lost without him. Even though I know i deserve better and he was just played me. He will never leave his wife married men never do. Its much easier to just have a piece on the side then to have to get a divorce. I haven't spoken to him in 24 hours and i miss him like crazy. This is just a process hunnie. Time heals all wounds. You have to just move on, Its OK to hurt but you were being used also, your guy took advantage of your for those reasons, mine took advantage of me because i am young and niave. He was also a lot older then me...Boy i wish i never got myself into this. You will be fine we both will. Best of luck
We can get through this together :)
First of all, no one really knows how your married man felt about you except for him. His wife is going to tell you things to hurt you because she has been betrayed herself. He may have loved you, etc. but she is not going to believe that. If she did believe it she would be a fool to take him back. By telling herself that he didn't love you, or didn't care about you, she is protecting herself. She is downplaying what you two had so she can just ignore what happened and forgive him.
I know you are embarassed and she shouldn't be going around telling your mutual friends things about the situation. But think about this, she is telling everyone that her husband had an affair with you and she is still with him. What does that say about her to other people? Maybe they are thinking what a fool she is and she's thinking that it's making you look bad.....
Getting over any failed relationship is tough, but you have a daughter to think about. When you are feeling sad, look at her and know that you are not alone. You have someone to fight for, to be strong for and to be a role model for. If you still feel depressed, talk to a counselor about it. Just remember that it is normal to feel sad after a failed relationship. But don't stop living your life. Go out and do something fun, something for yourself. Go to the spa and have a massage. Do something for yourself everyday. And be happy knowing that you can walk away from this relationship and make yourself better. They have to continue to live with the after effects of the affair.
Consider it a valuable life lesson. Imagine how his wife felt when she found out he was a cheating dog. Your ashamed and embarrassed, and she is probably devastated that her husband could do such a thing.
Just pick up the pieces and go on. It will eventually blow over and in a year or 2 when this man is behind you, and you have gone on with your life, his wife will probably be suffering the pain still. Been there and experienced that.
He was just using you for sex, and if you let him come back again with another sad sob story, he will do it again and again.
Here is the best I have to offer... YOU are still a good person worthy of love and so is your little girl. So you made a mistake. Who hasn't. You would not be human if you didn't. I am a firm believer that everyone in this life needs a companion. I can not imagine being alone and trying to raise my little 3 year old boy.. I can not say that I would not do the samething just for someone to show me some love and attention. But you are better than that you deserve a man who will love you and only you and devote his time to you and your daughter. I am sure the security you are longing for is to make a family for you and your little girl. that is all anyone really wants..Get up , dust yourself off and regain your confidence.. His wife is jsut upset and probably embarressed herself because her husband cheated on her. So talking about you relieves some of her pain and anger. And as far as the guy goes..He may have had feelings for you..of course his wife is gonig to say hedidn't becasue she doesn't want him to have had..Life is so much more..than that..gossip will always be around no matter what you do...and they are probably talking about him too because HE is the one who did worse in my opinon by breaking his vows...Please put more confidence in yourself. GOOD luck..do it for yourself and your daughter,,
Your the type of women us married woman hate. I hope you never get over it. Stop thinking about yourself for a minute and think about how she feels in front of ';the people you mutually know'; she must be embarrassed that everyone knows he had an affair on her.
Listen your in a deep hole, you were the ';home recker'; all you can do now is tell people what you said here, he smooth talked my gullible *** in bed... why cause your a single mom and lonely...etc... he loved me blah... bottom line HE LIED TO YOU!!! **** him and if his wife is still having problems with you tell her to try and get a grip on your cheating *** husband who is obviously starved for sex that he has to go and trick you into sleeping with him, but that still doesn't give you the right to do something like that, just protest that you got played big deal most women have it happen to them, and by who, a smooth married man who can learn to talk himself outta most problems with women...including saving his marriage after he probably got caught
i can tell u this, but it seems u already know. a married man will almost never leave his wife. u know this now. try not to be so down on urself for the sake of ur baby girl. u shouldnt worry wha tthe wife says about u. hell , she couldnt keep her man at home! and she's the dumb one who stayed with him after he cheated on her. the only inspiration u should need is ur daughter. it should be ur goal to teach her never to make the same mistakes as u. focus on her adn things should turn around. hope ur ok
move on.You knew what you were getting into by seeing a married man who still lived with his wife.So what if she says things about you to others if they truely know you they will understand and know what you did.Move on find a new Unmarried man and enjoy the rest of your life.
you will just need to pick up your chin and move on
Counseling might be an option for you also
Can take a while, esp getting over all the lies, don't froget the wife could be lying in what she said to you to try and cover up her short commings as a bad wife.
go out of that situation!
you'll only make things worst!
you can be sued if the other woman knows about it.
find another one!
there are lots of men out there!
its not love,its lust!
I am in the same shoes you are in... the only difference was before the affair me and the man were friends and his wife was my best friend. I was also told he was only using me for sex and it also devestated me. It has been only a year ago since this happened and I can honestly tell you that you will never get over it. It is something you will never forget... the one thing I would mention to you is go to counseling it really helps. It helped me alot to talk to someone about things make sure it is an unbiased party though! When you go around town hold your head up... don't let him take your diginity. Remember it takes two to tango and you are not the only one at fault here! He is just as guilty as you are and he is somewhat more guilty than you are. He was the one with the commitment not you... and he betrayed that! Don't try to hide how you feel be honest with yourself. Don't hold your feelings in. Most of all be true to your self. you will come out of this better than what you were before this. Just remember that we all make mistakes and yes while some are worst than others I know you can get through this... I did and I know you can too! If you need anyone to talk to feel free to e-mail me at hbeth06@yahoo like I have told you I have been in your shoes and I feel the pain. Remember you don't have to go through this alone.Does anyone have any advice on getting over an affair with a married man?
Feng Shway (sp) Its amazing! Just change small things in your every day life and you start feeling better.... Like... re arrange your house, apt, bedroom, refridgerator... Stuff like that... I use to go threw my closet and decide what I dont like and what I do like... And every time Im down I do this and I ALWAYS feel better. I've told lots of people about this, and my friends do it now too. Small changes in your every day life affect you greatly. Just keep your mind occupied and your heart will get better. Good luck babe!
First of all, dont do it! Second....go for another one!
get him n person and kick him square in the nuts!!
No use starting with u deserve it u knew he was married.So u need 2 get on with life for urself / daughter.WE all make mistakes Best advise I can give u is hold ur head high / get back down 2 earth.I don not believe any 1 is so perfect they can cast stones.The wife who is saying things about u needs 2 remember it took 2 / her husband was just as guilty.So she is talking about her family as well.So she is needs 2 look at her marriage why did he go else where ?.I am not conducing what happened but it did take 2.You realize ur mistake it is over so (smile)and move on
Um i think you deserve to suffer and i think that karma is a Beotch!!! And you have a kid what kind of teaching is that? I hope you understand you have set your daughter up for alot of heart break!!!! Worry about your kid and not your love life
I realize you were in the wrong, however my heart goes out to you as well. We all do things because we have needs that aren't met. Sometimes the things we choose are just pretty stupid, but we choose them just the same. I'm married, a difficult marriage, but married just the same. I met a man, also married, difficult marriage but married all the same...we've not had a physical affair but we've had what I call an emotional affair for a couple years now. We did meet once, kissed...but I won't let it happen again and I won't have sex with him. As odd as this sounds, I am committed to my marriage, but he gave me things I needed like understanding, a listening ear, kindess and love...just not sex. Well, he decided he needed more and now has a mistress. He's also one of the odd ones and he's leaving his wife for this woman. He told the woman about us and she wants him to stop talking to me. He said he's really having a difficult time because he really feels he's in love with this woman (his poor wife) but can't stop thinking about me blah blah blah...and he doesn't want to blow it with this other woman (again, his poor wife) but doesn't want to stop talking to me BUT....so, we're not going to talk any more. He's become a very dear friend and I love him very much and am going to miss him like crazy. I feel jilted in a very odd sense and can't seem to get it out of my mind either. One thing I have done that seems to be helping is replacing the thought with a prayer every time it enters my mind. I repeat the Lord's Prayer or the 23rd Psalm. Maybe if you have something that makes you feel good that you have memorized you can repeat it over and over in your head when the painful thoughts enter in. Another thing that helps is to make a scrapbook of sorts of goals and things you love... look at them when you start to feel the pain. It could be flowers or the ocean or your daughter, anything that brings you peace. Love is an interesting thing, forbidden or not. I wish you well... time will heal this wound, but it will leave a scar. Yeah, his wife is hurting too...and maybe under different circumstances you would have been friends. Guess all you can do is realize she's full of her pain as well. Good luck sister, and hold your head high. You're strong, you're gonna be ok. :)
I think you need to realize that his wife told you that he never loved you because she was trying to hurt you. She doesn't know if he did or didn't. He probably told her that he didn't love you, just to save his marriage. Having been there, I am sure he did love you. Also, she is spreading rumors to mutual friends to hurt you again. If you are confronted by someone else about it, you need to say something like, ';she wouldn't do what he needed, so I rocked his world';. You aren't the bad person here. If anyone is to be bad, it's him for doing it without his wife knowing, or her because she is hateful. You are the innocent party. As for never having a relationship with a married man, don't do it unless you know that you are doing it for YOUR pleasure. Also, in your next relationship, even if he isn't married, you need to be in that relationship for your good, not his. You need to be satisfied prior to committing to him. Don't let him get into your family. Don't let your daughter get attached to him. When you get to the point that you want to be married to him, then you can start letting down your guards. Until then, do it for your pleasure. As for getting over the last guy, do what your mother always told you to do. Wash your face and be polite. Good Luck
Firstly, you might have foreseen this coming. Not to be the voice of 'I told you so', because that's not what you need right now. Plus, you've already realized what sort of trouble can come from this sort of thing.
That being said, let's cast some perspective. Thins being what they are, they wifey is going to say anything and everything that she can to hurt your feelings, as she is childish and doesn't want to place her anger where it needs to be, on the shoulders of her hubby, instead of at your feet.
As for all of her venom, you can't control that, its a lost cause, so forget trying to salvage your image in the eyes of those people whose ears she poured that poison, either they'll see that what she'd said isn't true, based on how you act, rather than the words she'd thrown at them, or they won't. Either way, its nothing that you can control.
Here's the important part.
Look at your daughter. Right into her eyes and let her know how much you love her. Make a pact with yourself that SHE is more important to you than anything else that this crappy world can throw at you, and that from this moment on, no matter what, everything you will ever do will be for the greater good of that little girl.
After that, get up off of your knees, assuming that your little girl is that short, make you both a peanut butter and jelly sandwich and go to the park and push her on the swings.
Tomorrow will always be a better day for you.
Sweet heart... you made a mistake and now you are paying for the consequences... it was a dangerous mistake, since you have mutual friends, and so you can't just disappear... but in time, it will boil over... like everything else in life...
You need to give yourself time to heal... go to the gym, lose a couple of pounds, clean up a closet... do something that gives you a sense of accomplishment... take your daughter to some place that you have been meaning to take her for a long time...
Just keep busy and let time do some healing...
You are going through hell, so just keep going and it will end pretty soon... you will be a much stronger, wiser person after this... but you have to pull yourself up, nobody else can do that for you... do it for your daughter... she needs to have a role model, a strong independent mom...
Hope this helps... wish all the best...
sorry to hear that if you want to pick up the pices YOU MUST MOVE ON BABY be strong for your little girl the same thing happend to me once so i know what you are going throuh email me mabey i can comfort you some
get mad
use your anger to go on
the man lied to you
he used you
i would be pissed
but instead of doing something negative use the energy from your anger to do something positive
his wife is going around bad mouthing you because she is angry too
but she shouldn't be angry at you
she should be angry at that two-faced, lying, cheater of a husband and be taking it out of him
tell your mutual friends that you are as much a victim as his wife is
I don鈥檛 think you will receive the counseling you need in here. I will pray for you.
It's all right there. You were a dumbass and you know it. Now just get over it and promise to now do such a stupid thing again.
Well, duh. I'm sorry, but if you didn't know that this was going to eventually happen, then you're an idiot. You were the 'other' woman for him, and he didn't care about you. They do just use you.
I don't understand why anyone would have an affair with a married man knowingly, anyway. o: They always dump you for their wife. They're MARRIED for goodness' sake.
I think you should be embarrassed and ashamed. I have no sympathy for people who want to break up a marriage. :| Sorry.
gather some friends of your and have a girls night out. find a single man. you should had dropped that guy when you found out that he was married. if you like to chat more email me.
Wow this is the same thing i am going through...Mine said he loved me and everything. He also said he was not happy with his marriage anymore. It went on for a few months it was great at first until the feelings started and he changed it by saying ';I love you';. I ended it, took him back and ended it again. I feel lost without him. Even though I know i deserve better and he was just played me. He will never leave his wife married men never do. Its much easier to just have a piece on the side then to have to get a divorce. I haven't spoken to him in 24 hours and i miss him like crazy. This is just a process hunnie. Time heals all wounds. You have to just move on, Its OK to hurt but you were being used also, your guy took advantage of your for those reasons, mine took advantage of me because i am young and niave. He was also a lot older then me...Boy i wish i never got myself into this. You will be fine we both will. Best of luck
We can get through this together :)
First of all, no one really knows how your married man felt about you except for him. His wife is going to tell you things to hurt you because she has been betrayed herself. He may have loved you, etc. but she is not going to believe that. If she did believe it she would be a fool to take him back. By telling herself that he didn't love you, or didn't care about you, she is protecting herself. She is downplaying what you two had so she can just ignore what happened and forgive him.
I know you are embarassed and she shouldn't be going around telling your mutual friends things about the situation. But think about this, she is telling everyone that her husband had an affair with you and she is still with him. What does that say about her to other people? Maybe they are thinking what a fool she is and she's thinking that it's making you look bad.....
Getting over any failed relationship is tough, but you have a daughter to think about. When you are feeling sad, look at her and know that you are not alone. You have someone to fight for, to be strong for and to be a role model for. If you still feel depressed, talk to a counselor about it. Just remember that it is normal to feel sad after a failed relationship. But don't stop living your life. Go out and do something fun, something for yourself. Go to the spa and have a massage. Do something for yourself everyday. And be happy knowing that you can walk away from this relationship and make yourself better. They have to continue to live with the after effects of the affair.
Consider it a valuable life lesson. Imagine how his wife felt when she found out he was a cheating dog. Your ashamed and embarrassed, and she is probably devastated that her husband could do such a thing.
Just pick up the pieces and go on. It will eventually blow over and in a year or 2 when this man is behind you, and you have gone on with your life, his wife will probably be suffering the pain still. Been there and experienced that.
He was just using you for sex, and if you let him come back again with another sad sob story, he will do it again and again.
Here is the best I have to offer... YOU are still a good person worthy of love and so is your little girl. So you made a mistake. Who hasn't. You would not be human if you didn't. I am a firm believer that everyone in this life needs a companion. I can not imagine being alone and trying to raise my little 3 year old boy.. I can not say that I would not do the samething just for someone to show me some love and attention. But you are better than that you deserve a man who will love you and only you and devote his time to you and your daughter. I am sure the security you are longing for is to make a family for you and your little girl. that is all anyone really wants..Get up , dust yourself off and regain your confidence.. His wife is jsut upset and probably embarressed herself because her husband cheated on her. So talking about you relieves some of her pain and anger. And as far as the guy goes..He may have had feelings for you..of course his wife is gonig to say hedidn't becasue she doesn't want him to have had..Life is so much more..than that..gossip will always be around no matter what you do...and they are probably talking about him too because HE is the one who did worse in my opinon by breaking his vows...Please put more confidence in yourself. GOOD luck..do it for yourself and your daughter,,
Your the type of women us married woman hate. I hope you never get over it. Stop thinking about yourself for a minute and think about how she feels in front of ';the people you mutually know'; she must be embarrassed that everyone knows he had an affair on her.
Listen your in a deep hole, you were the ';home recker'; all you can do now is tell people what you said here, he smooth talked my gullible *** in bed... why cause your a single mom and lonely...etc... he loved me blah... bottom line HE LIED TO YOU!!! **** him and if his wife is still having problems with you tell her to try and get a grip on your cheating *** husband who is obviously starved for sex that he has to go and trick you into sleeping with him, but that still doesn't give you the right to do something like that, just protest that you got played big deal most women have it happen to them, and by who, a smooth married man who can learn to talk himself outta most problems with women...including saving his marriage after he probably got caught
i can tell u this, but it seems u already know. a married man will almost never leave his wife. u know this now. try not to be so down on urself for the sake of ur baby girl. u shouldnt worry wha tthe wife says about u. hell , she couldnt keep her man at home! and she's the dumb one who stayed with him after he cheated on her. the only inspiration u should need is ur daughter. it should be ur goal to teach her never to make the same mistakes as u. focus on her adn things should turn around. hope ur ok
move on.You knew what you were getting into by seeing a married man who still lived with his wife.So what if she says things about you to others if they truely know you they will understand and know what you did.Move on find a new Unmarried man and enjoy the rest of your life.
you will just need to pick up your chin and move on
Counseling might be an option for you also
Can take a while, esp getting over all the lies, don't froget the wife could be lying in what she said to you to try and cover up her short commings as a bad wife.
go out of that situation!
you'll only make things worst!
you can be sued if the other woman knows about it.
find another one!
there are lots of men out there!
its not love,its lust!
Im developing a crush on this man need some advice?
I go to this place every day to eat with my child and there is this guy there that is a cook and host and I started to develop a crush on him I heard he has a child as well while he was talking on his cell phone basically I need some advice I thought about juss writing my phone number and putting it in his pocket and being forward but I don't know I would like to get to know him more but I don't know if he has a woman or if he even would like me plus he may not be viewed attractive in most peoples eyes.. how can I let him know how im feeling we are both adults so its not like its a 5th grade crush need some advice thanksIm developing a crush on this man need some advice?
I think you should try talking to him and flirt, then slip him ur number when the times right ;]Im developing a crush on this man need some advice?
answer my question plzzz i need advice from an experienced girl like urself as this girl is kinda confusing
ermmm just ask him do you want to go out sometime
the worst he can say is no and you only live once and if he says no then u know he aint worth it in the first place
i think the best think you could do is ask him to get a cup of coffee something. its honesly the only way something will happen. good luck.
help me?
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Walk up to him, when you do NOT have your kid with you, and say ';I wrote my number on this paper. I don't know if you're seeing anyone or not, but if your not, give me a call. I think I would like to get to know you better.';
Guys like to be asked out too! So take a deep breath %26amp; just do it. Besides the worst thing that could happen is you end up eating somewhere else. So be brave! And got ask that man out!
Good luck!
I would just ask him if he ever has the weekends free. Introduce yourself like, OMG I'm so nervous I am not even thinking, I'm( Karen) and do be SMILING!!!! and tell him you have had your eye on him and have been dying to ask him if you two could go out to a show. If he says yes, ask him if you can call him later tonight? or tomorrow. Don't walk away without somehow getting his number or a date set up to meet. OR! You can say, one day I overheard you on the phone with a child and was wondering if he would be like to go bowling, with his son or daughter with you and your son or daughter, this is an activity that creates a lot of laughter and the kids can be there, the tension is not there and it's comfortable. Also there is always sports , like Tennis, kids can go there also. Ask if he plays any sports. It has been so long since I have been in the dating world but then I was very forward when I was in college, I had a very high self esteem and my confidence was very high!!!!! Stay positive and sound FUN to be around. Fun personalities are a HUGE PLUS!
give him your number...
be forward about it just start talking about your kids..since it is somthing that you both can relate to.
Just ask him if he'd like to get coffee or something sometime.blackheads eraser
I think you should try talking to him and flirt, then slip him ur number when the times right ;]Im developing a crush on this man need some advice?
answer my question plzzz i need advice from an experienced girl like urself as this girl is kinda confusing
ermmm just ask him do you want to go out sometime
the worst he can say is no and you only live once and if he says no then u know he aint worth it in the first place
i think the best think you could do is ask him to get a cup of coffee something. its honesly the only way something will happen. good luck.
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Walk up to him, when you do NOT have your kid with you, and say ';I wrote my number on this paper. I don't know if you're seeing anyone or not, but if your not, give me a call. I think I would like to get to know you better.';
Guys like to be asked out too! So take a deep breath %26amp; just do it. Besides the worst thing that could happen is you end up eating somewhere else. So be brave! And got ask that man out!
Good luck!
I would just ask him if he ever has the weekends free. Introduce yourself like, OMG I'm so nervous I am not even thinking, I'm( Karen) and do be SMILING!!!! and tell him you have had your eye on him and have been dying to ask him if you two could go out to a show. If he says yes, ask him if you can call him later tonight? or tomorrow. Don't walk away without somehow getting his number or a date set up to meet. OR! You can say, one day I overheard you on the phone with a child and was wondering if he would be like to go bowling, with his son or daughter with you and your son or daughter, this is an activity that creates a lot of laughter and the kids can be there, the tension is not there and it's comfortable. Also there is always sports , like Tennis, kids can go there also. Ask if he plays any sports. It has been so long since I have been in the dating world but then I was very forward when I was in college, I had a very high self esteem and my confidence was very high!!!!! Stay positive and sound FUN to be around. Fun personalities are a HUGE PLUS!
give him your number...
be forward about it just start talking about your kids..since it is somthing that you both can relate to.
Just ask him if he'd like to get coffee or something sometime.
Any advice on how to attract a taurus man, moon in scorpio, ascendant in leo?
I am a libra woman, ascendant taurus, moon pisces, venus virgo, mars gemini. Lately I have this guy in my life to whom I am very attracted to (taurus, moon in scorpio, ascendant in leo, venus gemini, mars libra) but he is being very indecisive and fickle. We get along very well, there is a lot of attraction, but I feel like he is afraid and is trying to stay away. He just got out of a relationship and says he wants to date around. I am very much into him but dont want to push him, yet would really like him to be in my life. Any advice? Astrologically, what kind of a dynamic could this be? What should I do to make this work?Any advice on how to attract a taurus man, moon in scorpio, ascendant in leo?
taurus guys are very certain of what they like and what they dont, he can be very hard to get into motion however so hopefully thats where i can come in and help you out a bit. first and foremost because he has that scorpio moon on his chart it makes him more secretive than your typical taurus but because taurus and scorpio signs are opposites it means that he posses all the traits of making any dream an actual reality. thats a good thing.
ok, so in the love department the taurus in him loves to eat so you better be able to cook or at least have the 411 on all the hot restaurants in town because he will probably ask you for a suggestion more so just to see what your taste is.
the scorpio moon in him however will make him the kind of guy that you will have to be a little mysterious around. im not saying to hold back and not let him see who you are, im just saying that leaving a little mystery will leave him wanting more. do not give it up easily to this man, if you do he WILL move on to another.
if he says he wants to date around then let him, show him that your confident in yourself and let him know in the mean time you will be doing the same. dont put that in his face or anything but the idea of another guy wanting you will get him moving a little faster. these guys love ladies and thats who they will end up with even if they play the field with slutty girls. its just, conquests. taurus wants a girl that is educated and beautiful and what do you know so do scorpios! get what im saying here...they love a girl who is not only strong but also in some way need to be taken care of or at least protected. his asc. in leo makes him a extremely passionate person so do not under any terms be fake with him EVER. you are a very deep person so it doesnt seem like you will have too much trouble with this you like real too.
do not push him or you will push him right out the door, taurus takes some time to weigh everything out and the scorpio moon just reinforces this and the fact that he will not let on to you what he is feeling until he is ready. be assured though once he does decide that you what he wants he will not only pursue you but will be one of the most if not the most passionate loyal loving man you have ever been with.Any advice on how to attract a taurus man, moon in scorpio, ascendant in leo?
Ask him to meet up for food. All the Taurus I have met graze like cows. But it has to be good food. And since Leo is in there better make it worth their money, because they will spend big on good quality food then.
And since he has his Scorpio moon he can pack away the food, but might be a bit more into health, and pinning him down on anything will be hard since scorpio keeps things a mystery at times.
I would say move on and dont let him string you along. He just said he wants to play the field. You should do the same and forget about him for awhile. If you must keep him as a friend then do so, but dont get caught up. He has already told you where you stand with him.
taurus guys are very certain of what they like and what they dont, he can be very hard to get into motion however so hopefully thats where i can come in and help you out a bit. first and foremost because he has that scorpio moon on his chart it makes him more secretive than your typical taurus but because taurus and scorpio signs are opposites it means that he posses all the traits of making any dream an actual reality. thats a good thing.
ok, so in the love department the taurus in him loves to eat so you better be able to cook or at least have the 411 on all the hot restaurants in town because he will probably ask you for a suggestion more so just to see what your taste is.
the scorpio moon in him however will make him the kind of guy that you will have to be a little mysterious around. im not saying to hold back and not let him see who you are, im just saying that leaving a little mystery will leave him wanting more. do not give it up easily to this man, if you do he WILL move on to another.
if he says he wants to date around then let him, show him that your confident in yourself and let him know in the mean time you will be doing the same. dont put that in his face or anything but the idea of another guy wanting you will get him moving a little faster. these guys love ladies and thats who they will end up with even if they play the field with slutty girls. its just, conquests. taurus wants a girl that is educated and beautiful and what do you know so do scorpios! get what im saying here...they love a girl who is not only strong but also in some way need to be taken care of or at least protected. his asc. in leo makes him a extremely passionate person so do not under any terms be fake with him EVER. you are a very deep person so it doesnt seem like you will have too much trouble with this you like real too.
do not push him or you will push him right out the door, taurus takes some time to weigh everything out and the scorpio moon just reinforces this and the fact that he will not let on to you what he is feeling until he is ready. be assured though once he does decide that you what he wants he will not only pursue you but will be one of the most if not the most passionate loyal loving man you have ever been with.Any advice on how to attract a taurus man, moon in scorpio, ascendant in leo?
Ask him to meet up for food. All the Taurus I have met graze like cows. But it has to be good food. And since Leo is in there better make it worth their money, because they will spend big on good quality food then.
And since he has his Scorpio moon he can pack away the food, but might be a bit more into health, and pinning him down on anything will be hard since scorpio keeps things a mystery at times.
I would say move on and dont let him string you along. He just said he wants to play the field. You should do the same and forget about him for awhile. If you must keep him as a friend then do so, but dont get caught up. He has already told you where you stand with him.
Need advice on what to do about a man i a with?
I love this man, he has done many things ... like cheat on me for a whole year, and just crazy things... i took him back every time. but now i just wanna move on and do my own things. we have been together for 6 years and i dont see it goin any where ... he has changed and is nicer .... we live together. every thing in he house is mine. he uses my car to work yet only paid rent about 3 times the whole year. should i stick around and try to help him get his education and everything else or move one .. and ya i am almost done with college and he has not yet attended any.. i have spent about 20 000 on paying his share of things.. I am tired and just rather take care of my self. should i tell him to leave ... or should i stay and try to help him..Need advice on what to do about a man i a with?
first of all its obvious that you've spoiled this man. He has learned to become dependent on your money and your ability to be passive with him. if he had to catch the bus to work everyday, i bet he'd go out and get himself a car (even if it were a bucket). And whenever he has some issue, you run to it like your his mom. It should be the other way around, you only paid 3 months rent this year, because its what was intended, for men to do more and harder work then women. Wing him off of you, start taking care of yourself again. Either he will get on point (afraid to lose someone good) or you wont have to ask yourself that question and get a man who a little more independent and reliable.Need advice on what to do about a man i a with?
Honey, get rid of him as fast as possible. You might have a lot of love for him, but it sounds like he is taking advantage of you. You should not be supporting a grown man. Take care of yourself, and save that extra money you're wasting on him. Kick him out, and let him be someone else's problem. Good luck!
Please tell him to leave, and you will actually be doing him a favor by forcing him to face facts. Some people have to hit rock bottom before they can help themselves.
The fact that you were able to tolerate this and still go to school is, well, AMAZING! You are very smart. I'm sure you'll do very well for yourself.
help him with his education? why, so he can dump on you even more? cut your losses now, why invest anymore time with a loser, he's done nothing for you, why would, or should he start now. you have taught him that it's ok to treat you this way, and you've taught him well. leave him now!
Good for you1
Take care of #1 (you) .....you have 'outgrown' one another.
6+ years I assume you're not 'teenagers' anymore. He thought he'd LIVE 'off' you.
You sound like a Smart %26amp; intelligent Gilr/Woman!
MOVE ON.....Whatever you do, do NOT feel sorry for him and DO NOT let him HOLD you BACK!!
find someone else who is actually going somewhere in life. help yourself first then help others. help yourself by getting rid of this guy who is definitely holding you back from finding happiness with someone else
i think you answered the question yourself... ';but now i just wanna move on and do my own thing.';
be smart. take care of yourself.
Exactly what DID he bring to the relationship? You answered your own question, I just hope you live in a State where he doesnt get half of your stuff.
LEave him for the good of yours. 6 years, if he would change, he would change by now. seriously
If he really cared about you he wouldn't take advantage of you the way he does. Dump him!
Kick him to the curb. He is using you.
Leave.
go find your true love
Follow Your Heart!!!!
DUMP HIM!! he is totally using you....are you blind? sorry but dump him he doesn麓t deserve you......
leave him and follow ur heart
first of all its obvious that you've spoiled this man. He has learned to become dependent on your money and your ability to be passive with him. if he had to catch the bus to work everyday, i bet he'd go out and get himself a car (even if it were a bucket). And whenever he has some issue, you run to it like your his mom. It should be the other way around, you only paid 3 months rent this year, because its what was intended, for men to do more and harder work then women. Wing him off of you, start taking care of yourself again. Either he will get on point (afraid to lose someone good) or you wont have to ask yourself that question and get a man who a little more independent and reliable.Need advice on what to do about a man i a with?
Honey, get rid of him as fast as possible. You might have a lot of love for him, but it sounds like he is taking advantage of you. You should not be supporting a grown man. Take care of yourself, and save that extra money you're wasting on him. Kick him out, and let him be someone else's problem. Good luck!
Please tell him to leave, and you will actually be doing him a favor by forcing him to face facts. Some people have to hit rock bottom before they can help themselves.
The fact that you were able to tolerate this and still go to school is, well, AMAZING! You are very smart. I'm sure you'll do very well for yourself.
help him with his education? why, so he can dump on you even more? cut your losses now, why invest anymore time with a loser, he's done nothing for you, why would, or should he start now. you have taught him that it's ok to treat you this way, and you've taught him well. leave him now!
Good for you1
Take care of #1 (you) .....you have 'outgrown' one another.
6+ years I assume you're not 'teenagers' anymore. He thought he'd LIVE 'off' you.
You sound like a Smart %26amp; intelligent Gilr/Woman!
MOVE ON.....Whatever you do, do NOT feel sorry for him and DO NOT let him HOLD you BACK!!
find someone else who is actually going somewhere in life. help yourself first then help others. help yourself by getting rid of this guy who is definitely holding you back from finding happiness with someone else
i think you answered the question yourself... ';but now i just wanna move on and do my own thing.';
be smart. take care of yourself.
Exactly what DID he bring to the relationship? You answered your own question, I just hope you live in a State where he doesnt get half of your stuff.
LEave him for the good of yours. 6 years, if he would change, he would change by now. seriously
If he really cared about you he wouldn't take advantage of you the way he does. Dump him!
Kick him to the curb. He is using you.
Leave.
go find your true love
Follow Your Heart!!!!
DUMP HIM!! he is totally using you....are you blind? sorry but dump him he doesn麓t deserve you......
leave him and follow ur heart
Need advice on how to deal with a man who is smitten by me...?
Met a guy Saturday who invited me to a swanky restaurant for Super Bowl party. The guy creeped me out a bit, but the restaurant is five star and it was a private party with some of the city's elite expected to attend. So, I went. He lied and said he was a chef, but he was really just a cook. The night before he acted all important but yesterday, nobody even really knew who he was! I met two of the restaurant owners and just kind of mingled with everyone just to make some connections. Every time I talked to a man, he would quickly usher me away. I actually heard him seriously say to one guy, ';She's mine.'; I'm like, dude, you just met me yesterday! Crazy, right? It would be easy for me to just ignore his calls, but I made friends with the owners and want to keep in contact with them and other people that work there. Psycho works in back, but someone will tell him I'm there if I go. If I don't talk to him again and he sees me, how do handle it?Need advice on how to deal with a man who is smitten by me...?
don't stop your life because of a psycho just let him know you aren't interested. pretty sure he doesn't want to loose his job. if that doesn't work call his probation officer.Need advice on how to deal with a man who is smitten by me...?
hahaha if he creeped you out to begin with , you had to of known that it would get worse if you went out with him. act like an adult and just tell him you used him.
and your dumb.
If the owner you met there REALLY wants to be your friend, and he wasn't just being nice because he thought you were dating his employee, I don't think it'll matter if you blow the creepy liar guy off or not. You can't force people to like you just as they cannot force you to like them.
don't stop your life because of a psycho just let him know you aren't interested. pretty sure he doesn't want to loose his job. if that doesn't work call his probation officer.Need advice on how to deal with a man who is smitten by me...?
hahaha if he creeped you out to begin with , you had to of known that it would get worse if you went out with him. act like an adult and just tell him you used him.
and your dumb.
If the owner you met there REALLY wants to be your friend, and he wasn't just being nice because he thought you were dating his employee, I don't think it'll matter if you blow the creepy liar guy off or not. You can't force people to like you just as they cannot force you to like them.
Has anyone had a problem with ';man-boobs'; or got any advice on hiding them?
I didn't have a problem with them until I got cancer. They may have grown a little bit while I was having chemo, I'm not sure of that. To be honest I felt too ill to notice, but I am pretty sure it is the drugs I am being given to fix my immune system that are causing the real problem.
Right now, outside of the house, I wear a really tight top to try to pull them in, covered by a rather loose hanging Val Doonican wool jumper.
To give an idea of size, I measured them and compared them to a chart on Wikipedia. If I wore a bra, I would need 48D.
My doctor pretty much tells me not to read too much into it, they will fix when I come off the drugs, but I want them fixed now.
Any good advice on hiding them in the meantime?Has anyone had a problem with ';man-boobs'; or got any advice on hiding them?
The only way possible is
http://www.underworks.com/990.html
It works wonders, or google Gynecomastia vestsHas anyone had a problem with ';man-boobs'; or got any advice on hiding them?
wow I'm so sorry my gay aunt wears really tight undershirts to keep hers hidden
Are you over weight at all? If you're feeling well enough to exercise, you could do some push ups and some cardio work- outs to help loose some fat.
The drugs you were taking could have caused you to produce more estrogen (female hormone present in all men) to counter act the increase in testosterone from the steroids. That would have caused your breasts to enlarge significantly. If thats the case, then the only thing you can really do is wait to get off the meds, and then pump some iron.
If you're looking for an immediate solution then you could wear something like under armor underneath your shirts, or wear sweaters/hoodies. Nothing to much you can do brother except cut the meds and increase your excersise.
cheers and good luck
well as a woman, i can say that you shouldnt be worried about it. If its a part of ur comming out of your illness, you shouldnt be ashamed or embarresed at all. And if the reason is because of some woman or something, if shes got a problem with it, well then shes obviously not a very good person. Your doctor knows whats best for you more then anyone else on this website, so my suggestion would be this: Just wait until your off the meds. May God Bless you, and please take care~
Man, I don't know what to tell you.
I would wear a couple wifebeaters with a loose-fitting shirt on top, that's the only thing I can think of.
Good luck!
With all due sensitivity:
Have you tried a tube top?
If I had boobs that size, I'd wear a sexy top and pierce my belly button.
Life is so unfair, I'm a 38A and would kill for your boobs.
Right now, outside of the house, I wear a really tight top to try to pull them in, covered by a rather loose hanging Val Doonican wool jumper.
To give an idea of size, I measured them and compared them to a chart on Wikipedia. If I wore a bra, I would need 48D.
My doctor pretty much tells me not to read too much into it, they will fix when I come off the drugs, but I want them fixed now.
Any good advice on hiding them in the meantime?Has anyone had a problem with ';man-boobs'; or got any advice on hiding them?
The only way possible is
http://www.underworks.com/990.html
It works wonders, or google Gynecomastia vestsHas anyone had a problem with ';man-boobs'; or got any advice on hiding them?
wow I'm so sorry my gay aunt wears really tight undershirts to keep hers hidden
Are you over weight at all? If you're feeling well enough to exercise, you could do some push ups and some cardio work- outs to help loose some fat.
The drugs you were taking could have caused you to produce more estrogen (female hormone present in all men) to counter act the increase in testosterone from the steroids. That would have caused your breasts to enlarge significantly. If thats the case, then the only thing you can really do is wait to get off the meds, and then pump some iron.
If you're looking for an immediate solution then you could wear something like under armor underneath your shirts, or wear sweaters/hoodies. Nothing to much you can do brother except cut the meds and increase your excersise.
cheers and good luck
well as a woman, i can say that you shouldnt be worried about it. If its a part of ur comming out of your illness, you shouldnt be ashamed or embarresed at all. And if the reason is because of some woman or something, if shes got a problem with it, well then shes obviously not a very good person. Your doctor knows whats best for you more then anyone else on this website, so my suggestion would be this: Just wait until your off the meds. May God Bless you, and please take care~
Man, I don't know what to tell you.
I would wear a couple wifebeaters with a loose-fitting shirt on top, that's the only thing I can think of.
Good luck!
With all due sensitivity:
Have you tried a tube top?
If I had boobs that size, I'd wear a sexy top and pierce my belly button.
Life is so unfair, I'm a 38A and would kill for your boobs.
Advice on how to leave this married man?
ive been with this married man for 3 yrs now, im 24 and he's 25- wheni met him he was married only for 7 months and had one son, and ofcourse made all these promises and tried leaving his wife at one time at the beginning and ofcourse didnt happen and some how i stayed because he always made me beleive they were not together. but i found out they are living together still, and they have another son - we had a son too he's 7 months. i was preg before and he convinced me to have an abort, and again on 2nd time but i couldnt , so we had a son. he kept saying we were going to get an apt together but when it came to signing the lease there were just excuses , i ended up signing alone , but yet im still with him - he is paying half on rent saying its our apt. ofcourse he's never there either working or with his wife and kids , hardly spends time with our son, he says its hard for him to abondon his kids, how do i leave him ????Advice on how to leave this married man?
This is the typical woman on the side so-called love story. He won't leave his wife because the grass is not greener on the other side. What makes you so delusional to think that if he is lying to his wife, a woman who he exchanged vows with, that he won't lie to you. He may not even have any problems but with you, so caught up in thinking that he will be with you exclusively. If he wanted to be with you, he would. Instead, he is at home right now in bed with his wife where he belongs. The question that I have for you is why did you bring a baby into this mess? It's OK if you want to be irresponsible, but shouldering the disdain from your son once he gets older is going to be humiliating. My advice is to get some self respect for yourself.Advice on how to leave this married man?
you shouldnt have had a kid with the man. he has a family and no offense but you just kinda ruined it for him and his wife and his kids. i dont think that you would have liked it if someone did that to you. but look just tell him straight up that you really cant be with him because for one hes married and two idk what you want to say but you shouldnt have got started with him. good luck to you
First of all, you shouldn't have murdered your child for any man. Second, you just cut off all contact. You are there for sex, he is never going to leave his wife for you. Even if he did, would you ever be able to trust him?
You need to change YOURSELF, not him.
Work on improving your own self esteem. That way you will not fall for the empty promises of the NEXT loser guy you meet.
You are worth the love and respect of a real man. Don't settle for less!
Well you should have never started it in the first place. The person I feel the worst for is the poor baby, he did not have a choice
Walk away and don't look back. He will NEVER leave his poor wife. He is a creep. I am sorry you are in this situation but there is better for you out there. LEAVE HIM and keep some pride.
honey he never tried to leave her. when you really want to leave somebody, you just pack up and walk out!
how could you be with a married man? you deserve every lie he told you and every problem you will face regarding this man.
you knew he was married and you facilitated and encouraged a deception that has put this other woman and her children in a less than desirable situation and you have produced a child that will end up suffering because of your stupidity. you chose his daddy!
you are free, conveneint sex and that is it.
so to answer your question...LEAVE dummy!
Since you two have a child together you are going to have a difficult time getting him out of your life. However, there are ways to get over him emotionally. You need to focus your attention on a new hobby. Start dating other men just for fun. Keep yourself busy and tell yourself every time you think of him it is over.
Setting aside your own feelings, you also need to make sure your child is provided for. I couldn't tell by what your wrote if his wife is aware you have a child by him as well. If he doesn't want to help you financially you should file a paternity suit against him to make him pay child support.
there is no key answer to make you walk away . it is up to you and it sounds like you're in a lot of pain and hurt and maybe eventually that will make you wake up and be done with this mess. why are you settling to be second or third in his life? he is mentally abusing you and its obviously took its toll on you because it sounds as though your self worth and respect is nil. he will treat you this way as long as you keep allowing it. another thing, why want this ';man'; who cheats on his wife, lies, etc, etc,? he's not even worth it. stop your addiction to him and go make your life better somehow someway
Don't listen to his empty promises. If you tell him that you are leaving he will be sure to promise you that ';this time'; he will leave his wife. Don't believe it. He's just saying that to get you secure enough to stay and him stay with his wife too. I'm sorry but he's not going to leave her, and I don't think he's going to let go of you with out a fight either. I would say the best way would be to loose all contact with him, but now you have a child involved. If you can survive without any of his support then do it. Get rid of him and find yourself a single man this time.
This is the typical woman on the side so-called love story. He won't leave his wife because the grass is not greener on the other side. What makes you so delusional to think that if he is lying to his wife, a woman who he exchanged vows with, that he won't lie to you. He may not even have any problems but with you, so caught up in thinking that he will be with you exclusively. If he wanted to be with you, he would. Instead, he is at home right now in bed with his wife where he belongs. The question that I have for you is why did you bring a baby into this mess? It's OK if you want to be irresponsible, but shouldering the disdain from your son once he gets older is going to be humiliating. My advice is to get some self respect for yourself.Advice on how to leave this married man?
you shouldnt have had a kid with the man. he has a family and no offense but you just kinda ruined it for him and his wife and his kids. i dont think that you would have liked it if someone did that to you. but look just tell him straight up that you really cant be with him because for one hes married and two idk what you want to say but you shouldnt have got started with him. good luck to you
First of all, you shouldn't have murdered your child for any man. Second, you just cut off all contact. You are there for sex, he is never going to leave his wife for you. Even if he did, would you ever be able to trust him?
You need to change YOURSELF, not him.
Work on improving your own self esteem. That way you will not fall for the empty promises of the NEXT loser guy you meet.
You are worth the love and respect of a real man. Don't settle for less!
Well you should have never started it in the first place. The person I feel the worst for is the poor baby, he did not have a choice
Walk away and don't look back. He will NEVER leave his poor wife. He is a creep. I am sorry you are in this situation but there is better for you out there. LEAVE HIM and keep some pride.
honey he never tried to leave her. when you really want to leave somebody, you just pack up and walk out!
how could you be with a married man? you deserve every lie he told you and every problem you will face regarding this man.
you knew he was married and you facilitated and encouraged a deception that has put this other woman and her children in a less than desirable situation and you have produced a child that will end up suffering because of your stupidity. you chose his daddy!
you are free, conveneint sex and that is it.
so to answer your question...LEAVE dummy!
Since you two have a child together you are going to have a difficult time getting him out of your life. However, there are ways to get over him emotionally. You need to focus your attention on a new hobby. Start dating other men just for fun. Keep yourself busy and tell yourself every time you think of him it is over.
Setting aside your own feelings, you also need to make sure your child is provided for. I couldn't tell by what your wrote if his wife is aware you have a child by him as well. If he doesn't want to help you financially you should file a paternity suit against him to make him pay child support.
there is no key answer to make you walk away . it is up to you and it sounds like you're in a lot of pain and hurt and maybe eventually that will make you wake up and be done with this mess. why are you settling to be second or third in his life? he is mentally abusing you and its obviously took its toll on you because it sounds as though your self worth and respect is nil. he will treat you this way as long as you keep allowing it. another thing, why want this ';man'; who cheats on his wife, lies, etc, etc,? he's not even worth it. stop your addiction to him and go make your life better somehow someway
Don't listen to his empty promises. If you tell him that you are leaving he will be sure to promise you that ';this time'; he will leave his wife. Don't believe it. He's just saying that to get you secure enough to stay and him stay with his wife too. I'm sorry but he's not going to leave her, and I don't think he's going to let go of you with out a fight either. I would say the best way would be to loose all contact with him, but now you have a child involved. If you can survive without any of his support then do it. Get rid of him and find yourself a single man this time.
Advice on my relationship with a married man?
I know the typical answer is run, run fast away from a married man, but I would like some advice preferably from people who have been in a similar situation. I'd really like advice from married men themselves. I have been involved with a married man for a little over a year. It started out innocently as friends, but our compatibility and chemistry was undeniable and we couldn't stay away from each other. Right after we met, I found out I was pregnant with some else's child. The father of my child abandoned us, but my married friend (not lover yet) took care of me and after a few months we became involved. He took care of me the entire time I was pregnant and now that my daughter is here, he is wonderful with her too. He has told me he loves me and that he would like to be with me someday. He says he wants to adopt her and have a family with us. I really love him and think he will make a perfect father for my daughter, but he is married. He said he married his wife too abruptly because he wanted to have a mother for his own daughter and is now regretting the decision. How can I believe that he really will leave her and be with us? Is this even a good possibility or is just telling me what he thinks I want to hear? I know nobody can know what he really intends to do without being in his head, but any advice would be really appreciated. I don't want to make a mistake. Everything is okay for right now because my daughter is too young to understand what is going on, but it can't go on like this indefinitely. I hate not being the one he goes home to. How long should I wait for him? What questions should I ask him? Should I offer for us to move in together? I just want to know what will motivate him to either leave his wife or be honest with me that is not really going to do it. Is a year not enough time to know he wants me and not her? Thank you in advance, especially for my daughter's sake.Advice on my relationship with a married man?
I think you should count your blessings. He took care of you while you were pregnant with another man's child, that's a wonderful thing for him to do. However he still has a wife. He may be telling you what you want to hear. It's hard being 'the other woman' but you cannot force him to leave his wife and be with you. If things are good between you maybe it's better to just accept what is. If you cannot handle it, then maybe it's better to move on. I'm in a somewhat similar situation, except I'm pg with this man's child. Despite what he told me in the beginning, I know now he'll never leave his wife, it's been 2 years. All you can do is leave the door open, so to speak. It's ultimately his decision. Otherwise find someone else and move on. Good luck.Advice on my relationship with a married man?
If he wanted to be with you he would be. And if he'll do it with you, he'll do it to you.
i think he is just leading you on sorry to say.. but he loves his wife or else he would of left her a long time ago dont you think so? its commen sense hunny.. be strong and move on.
point said HE is MARRIED will be and always. They lie through their teeth just so they can have you on the side. how do I know 10yrs I've been with him and it's always he gonna leave her but........But I'm not looking for another relationship I'm 49. Each yr the samethings are promised. get a calender take a two year span write down like a diary. each year nothing changes. for me nothing ever will.
You have a daughter now. You are no longer by yourself to do as you please. She deserves not to be raised in a home full of chaos with a progression of men. It's your duty as her mother to teach her right from wrong and to raise her to be a moral person. Right now she's too young to know what is going on, so you have time to get your act together. Drop the married man. If he'd stab his wife in the back he'll stab you in the back as well. After all, there is ALWAYS going to be someone younger and prettier around. Do you and your precious girl a favor. Swear off married men and concentrate on being a good mom. She deserves nothing less.
He is getting all he needs from you. If his intentions were to leave his wife and be with you he would have done that already. He is a liar and a cheat, if he was the least bit honorable he would have divorced his wife before he looked else where. I would bet you anything that you are not his first fling, and you will not be his last. Move on...... once you are out of his life, I can guarantee that he will not divorce his wife. He may come running back with all kinds of promises, unless he is carrying divorce papers in one hand and a ring for you in the other, I wouldn't give him the time of day. I'm sorry you are caught in his trap, free yourself before it gets worse.
Since you became a parent, it's time to stop thinking about yourself and put your daughter first. Definitely don't put your daughter through this though. It may not seem like it now, but there are plenty of people out there that you can date - who aren't married. If this person was any kind of decent, they wouldn't pursue you while married. There is absolutely nothing stopping him from starting the divorce proceedings NOW - and don't think that he's not because he cares about his current wife's feelings and doesn't want to hurt her. If he cared that much he wouldn't go home to her at night while having these types of relations with others. He wouldn't lie to her face. That's what he's doing to her and you and possibly others. Sure it's possible that he rushed into something that ended up not being right for him - we are all human, but there are legitimate ways of handling these situations. The way he's going he will never handle it. He will never get a divorce and if he ever did - he will end up doing the exact same thing to you that he did her. If he is truly in love with you and being honest like he says he would be ready at the drop of a hat to fess up to his wife and bring everything out in the open. He would have done this a year ago. Some people are just broken and there is nothing you can do to fix them. If you don't care enough about yourself to see clearly what is happening then do it for your daughter.makeup skin
I think you should count your blessings. He took care of you while you were pregnant with another man's child, that's a wonderful thing for him to do. However he still has a wife. He may be telling you what you want to hear. It's hard being 'the other woman' but you cannot force him to leave his wife and be with you. If things are good between you maybe it's better to just accept what is. If you cannot handle it, then maybe it's better to move on. I'm in a somewhat similar situation, except I'm pg with this man's child. Despite what he told me in the beginning, I know now he'll never leave his wife, it's been 2 years. All you can do is leave the door open, so to speak. It's ultimately his decision. Otherwise find someone else and move on. Good luck.Advice on my relationship with a married man?
If he wanted to be with you he would be. And if he'll do it with you, he'll do it to you.
i think he is just leading you on sorry to say.. but he loves his wife or else he would of left her a long time ago dont you think so? its commen sense hunny.. be strong and move on.
point said HE is MARRIED will be and always. They lie through their teeth just so they can have you on the side. how do I know 10yrs I've been with him and it's always he gonna leave her but........But I'm not looking for another relationship I'm 49. Each yr the samethings are promised. get a calender take a two year span write down like a diary. each year nothing changes. for me nothing ever will.
You have a daughter now. You are no longer by yourself to do as you please. She deserves not to be raised in a home full of chaos with a progression of men. It's your duty as her mother to teach her right from wrong and to raise her to be a moral person. Right now she's too young to know what is going on, so you have time to get your act together. Drop the married man. If he'd stab his wife in the back he'll stab you in the back as well. After all, there is ALWAYS going to be someone younger and prettier around. Do you and your precious girl a favor. Swear off married men and concentrate on being a good mom. She deserves nothing less.
He is getting all he needs from you. If his intentions were to leave his wife and be with you he would have done that already. He is a liar and a cheat, if he was the least bit honorable he would have divorced his wife before he looked else where. I would bet you anything that you are not his first fling, and you will not be his last. Move on...... once you are out of his life, I can guarantee that he will not divorce his wife. He may come running back with all kinds of promises, unless he is carrying divorce papers in one hand and a ring for you in the other, I wouldn't give him the time of day. I'm sorry you are caught in his trap, free yourself before it gets worse.
Since you became a parent, it's time to stop thinking about yourself and put your daughter first. Definitely don't put your daughter through this though. It may not seem like it now, but there are plenty of people out there that you can date - who aren't married. If this person was any kind of decent, they wouldn't pursue you while married. There is absolutely nothing stopping him from starting the divorce proceedings NOW - and don't think that he's not because he cares about his current wife's feelings and doesn't want to hurt her. If he cared that much he wouldn't go home to her at night while having these types of relations with others. He wouldn't lie to her face. That's what he's doing to her and you and possibly others. Sure it's possible that he rushed into something that ended up not being right for him - we are all human, but there are legitimate ways of handling these situations. The way he's going he will never handle it. He will never get a divorce and if he ever did - he will end up doing the exact same thing to you that he did her. If he is truly in love with you and being honest like he says he would be ready at the drop of a hat to fess up to his wife and bring everything out in the open. He would have done this a year ago. Some people are just broken and there is nothing you can do to fix them. If you don't care enough about yourself to see clearly what is happening then do it for your daughter.
Married with feelings for another man...can anyone give me advice on how to deal with this?
I have been married for 5 years now and I love my husband very much, but up until about 6 weeks ago, he was a very heavy ';weekend drinker'; with my birthday weekend being the last weekend he drank. about 3 weeks prior to that date i met a guy, who is absolutely amazing, and we have so much in common and can talk for hours and not get bored. mind you at this point I was seriously thinking about leaving my husband cause i couldn't deal with the constant fights he was getting into, among other bullshit. well over the 3 weeks this guy and i were talking, i caught feelings, and very strong ones. then my husband quit drinking and we decided to work things out, not just for us but for the sake of our girls. but i find myself still attracted to this guy, and still have feelings, but now he has gotten back in contact with his first love, and i would like to know if anyone has any advice on how to deal with this, and how to make the feelings i have for this guy ';go away'; so that i can devote my whole heart and soul to my husband again. PLEASE only SERIOUS answers, as this is a serious matter.Married with feelings for another man...can anyone give me advice on how to deal with this?
Good for you for wanting to work it out for your sake, the sake of your husband and the girls. If you feed something, it grows. Divert your thoughts to something else and eventually you will not have trouble putting this other guy out of your mind. Never take up contact with him again - EVER.
Contact the organization below, they can help you and your husband.Married with feelings for another man...can anyone give me advice on how to deal with this?
Every time you look at your girls just remember how miserable they would be if you and their father got a divorce. Especially in light of him sobering up. Time to try and reconnect with your husband. Perhaps some counseling and your husband coming to terms with his alcoholism. If you have alcohol in your home, get rid of it. Why have temptations there for your husband.
Which is more important, your husband and marriage or some new guy that just wants to get into your pants. Oh, and don't kid yourself, any guy hitting on a married woman is only after sex.
Don't bother if your both looking at other options go ahead and hook up with the other guy get a divorce and be happier
Okay, let me tell explain my experience in your situation.
As married women we do get bored easily and our husbands can be really BIG AZZ JERKS toward us. Its like they take us for granted...and then it seems like we meet or come across the most amazing dude/';other guy'; in like the right time when we need him to be there!! Its AMAZING how that works...lol Its like he does things that the husband in our lives USED TO DO!!! The long talks...the laughs...the great sex...etc...
But from experience and after everything goes down....Big J was right ...the ';other man'; only want what they can't have and that's our coochie (its like braggin rights to them)!!! A trust me a man will say ANYTHING under the sun that sounds OH SO GREAT TO US - to get into our pants!!! But really when you sit back and really evaluate what's going on...the other guy is not worth it - he's a JERK TOO!!!
Seriously, do you really want to start all over again with another relationship....him learning you and you learning him....Plus, the other dude is like a new piece of shiny jewelry...once the shine wears off you want another!! lol
The trick is out here is ';NOT TO FALL IN LOVE WITH ANOTHER';......just have fun!
Something I wish someone would have explained to me....I ended up falling in love with the other and got my heartbroken in the end....and I had to sit back and just realized no matter how much my husband is an AZZHOLE he's my azzhole until death due us part!!!!
Seriously, what you need is a vacation with your girls - a couple of big glasses of wine - and a nice FULL BODY MASSAGE!!! :-)
Yes, its true ...nobody told us marriage would be like this...but if you do decide to leave your husband...leave him b/c YOU WANT TO LEAVE HIM...not b/c another man is involved...b/c if that's the case it will only complicate everything!!!
Married 7 - Together for 14!!!
First of all, break contact with this guy. He'll only get in the way if you're trying to reconnect with your husband.
It may seem like this guy is amazing and perfect, but you're only seeing the surface at this point. you have lots to talk about because it's new and exciting. What you aren't seeing is that he has flaws too. The fact that he is willing to flirt with or persue a relationship with a maried woman should be a sign of his character.
And of course he'll seem like a great guy. You are a target to him and he is playing you. The whole ';I'd never take you for granted like your jerk of a husband'; is an angle guys have used for years.
You just aren't seeing that right now through your rose coloured glasses.
Try to get away and spend some time with your husband and you'll most likely find that the feelings for the new guy will quickly fade.
If you are serious about devoting yourself to your husband, you cut off contact with this other guy right now. Right this second. Promise yourself right now you will not entertain ideas of that man ever again.
You also need to confront your husband about his innapropriate behavior of contacting an ex, because he is crossing boundries, and you need to let him no you won't put up with that. If he is serious about you two then he will stop that.
You two should also enroll with a marital counselor, but be careful which one you pick. Some let their personal opinions come in instead of their education. I recommend a christian counselor because they want marriages to work and from my personal experience they are the best.
I am so sorry you are in this situation. The best thing I can say is to cut this new guy out all the way. No contact at all. You shouldn't have had the relationship you had with him, but you did, and the best you can do at this point is get him out of your life and focus on your family.
My other suggestion is to think about therapy. If not for you as a couple, at least for you as an individual.
Hi This isn't always easy the feelings you caught for the other man was becauseyou were fed up with what was going on.I think if youstayed focused on what really matters to you it will be ok and in time it will fade. I knowthat seems hard right now because he was there when you most needed him,but stayed focused on your husband and the girls involve yourself with them more and it will diminish. You may find yourself wondering if this was the right choice because as you said you both connected nicely.But in the 3 weeks you knew him you only knew the him you needed at that time. And actually him contactinghis 1st love he is looking for sosmthing for himself that he can't find. he ain't secure within himself either. so you may think the choice is hard but it wasn't ya made the right one by giving this another shot. and if you too were meant to be it will be down the road for now focus on where you are.Was with a drinker 4 yrs it was a lonly life for me who had so much life in me. No i ended up givingup but that was me i gave it a chance oh one to many times im good now ina steady happy realtonship with a good guy who can give me the time. not the bottle. But give it a chance 1st before you move forward. Good luck to you
Good for you for wanting to work it out for your sake, the sake of your husband and the girls. If you feed something, it grows. Divert your thoughts to something else and eventually you will not have trouble putting this other guy out of your mind. Never take up contact with him again - EVER.
Contact the organization below, they can help you and your husband.Married with feelings for another man...can anyone give me advice on how to deal with this?
Every time you look at your girls just remember how miserable they would be if you and their father got a divorce. Especially in light of him sobering up. Time to try and reconnect with your husband. Perhaps some counseling and your husband coming to terms with his alcoholism. If you have alcohol in your home, get rid of it. Why have temptations there for your husband.
Which is more important, your husband and marriage or some new guy that just wants to get into your pants. Oh, and don't kid yourself, any guy hitting on a married woman is only after sex.
Don't bother if your both looking at other options go ahead and hook up with the other guy get a divorce and be happier
Okay, let me tell explain my experience in your situation.
As married women we do get bored easily and our husbands can be really BIG AZZ JERKS toward us. Its like they take us for granted...and then it seems like we meet or come across the most amazing dude/';other guy'; in like the right time when we need him to be there!! Its AMAZING how that works...lol Its like he does things that the husband in our lives USED TO DO!!! The long talks...the laughs...the great sex...etc...
But from experience and after everything goes down....Big J was right ...the ';other man'; only want what they can't have and that's our coochie (its like braggin rights to them)!!! A trust me a man will say ANYTHING under the sun that sounds OH SO GREAT TO US - to get into our pants!!! But really when you sit back and really evaluate what's going on...the other guy is not worth it - he's a JERK TOO!!!
Seriously, do you really want to start all over again with another relationship....him learning you and you learning him....Plus, the other dude is like a new piece of shiny jewelry...once the shine wears off you want another!! lol
The trick is out here is ';NOT TO FALL IN LOVE WITH ANOTHER';......just have fun!
Something I wish someone would have explained to me....I ended up falling in love with the other and got my heartbroken in the end....and I had to sit back and just realized no matter how much my husband is an AZZHOLE he's my azzhole until death due us part!!!!
Seriously, what you need is a vacation with your girls - a couple of big glasses of wine - and a nice FULL BODY MASSAGE!!! :-)
Yes, its true ...nobody told us marriage would be like this...but if you do decide to leave your husband...leave him b/c YOU WANT TO LEAVE HIM...not b/c another man is involved...b/c if that's the case it will only complicate everything!!!
Married 7 - Together for 14!!!
First of all, break contact with this guy. He'll only get in the way if you're trying to reconnect with your husband.
It may seem like this guy is amazing and perfect, but you're only seeing the surface at this point. you have lots to talk about because it's new and exciting. What you aren't seeing is that he has flaws too. The fact that he is willing to flirt with or persue a relationship with a maried woman should be a sign of his character.
And of course he'll seem like a great guy. You are a target to him and he is playing you. The whole ';I'd never take you for granted like your jerk of a husband'; is an angle guys have used for years.
You just aren't seeing that right now through your rose coloured glasses.
Try to get away and spend some time with your husband and you'll most likely find that the feelings for the new guy will quickly fade.
If you are serious about devoting yourself to your husband, you cut off contact with this other guy right now. Right this second. Promise yourself right now you will not entertain ideas of that man ever again.
You also need to confront your husband about his innapropriate behavior of contacting an ex, because he is crossing boundries, and you need to let him no you won't put up with that. If he is serious about you two then he will stop that.
You two should also enroll with a marital counselor, but be careful which one you pick. Some let their personal opinions come in instead of their education. I recommend a christian counselor because they want marriages to work and from my personal experience they are the best.
I am so sorry you are in this situation. The best thing I can say is to cut this new guy out all the way. No contact at all. You shouldn't have had the relationship you had with him, but you did, and the best you can do at this point is get him out of your life and focus on your family.
My other suggestion is to think about therapy. If not for you as a couple, at least for you as an individual.
Hi This isn't always easy the feelings you caught for the other man was becauseyou were fed up with what was going on.I think if youstayed focused on what really matters to you it will be ok and in time it will fade. I knowthat seems hard right now because he was there when you most needed him,but stayed focused on your husband and the girls involve yourself with them more and it will diminish. You may find yourself wondering if this was the right choice because as you said you both connected nicely.But in the 3 weeks you knew him you only knew the him you needed at that time. And actually him contactinghis 1st love he is looking for sosmthing for himself that he can't find. he ain't secure within himself either. so you may think the choice is hard but it wasn't ya made the right one by giving this another shot. and if you too were meant to be it will be down the road for now focus on where you are.Was with a drinker 4 yrs it was a lonly life for me who had so much life in me. No i ended up givingup but that was me i gave it a chance oh one to many times im good now ina steady happy realtonship with a good guy who can give me the time. not the bottle. But give it a chance 1st before you move forward. Good luck to you
Advice for girl on top sex when man has big stomach?
**Shouldn't make that much difference, just go with what feels most comfy for you both.**Advice for girl on top sex when man has big stomach?
How big is his stomach? It should be possible even with a belly, but then I dunno HOW big.
Try doggie, reverse cowgirl, missionary, spooning...etcAdvice for girl on top sex when man has big stomach?
UGGGGGH TELL HIM TO GO ON A DIET. UNLESS OF COURSE YOUR BIG TO, IN WHICH CASE I CANT HELP YOU OUT. AND TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTION, THERE IS NO ANSWER, JUST GRIN AND BARE IT. LOL
Try not to use the stomach position but rather other pleasurable ways!
Have fun!
well if this man loves the person wanting to have sex with and she loves him back, ';well';, do it!!!!!!!!!!!!
It's still possible just move the stomach around.
Reverse cowgirl?
floating helicopter
Keep the lights off...
my mom borrows my skateboard when that happens.
reverse cowgirl, good luck
is it ya husband?
How big is his stomach? It should be possible even with a belly, but then I dunno HOW big.
Try doggie, reverse cowgirl, missionary, spooning...etcAdvice for girl on top sex when man has big stomach?
UGGGGGH TELL HIM TO GO ON A DIET. UNLESS OF COURSE YOUR BIG TO, IN WHICH CASE I CANT HELP YOU OUT. AND TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTION, THERE IS NO ANSWER, JUST GRIN AND BARE IT. LOL
Try not to use the stomach position but rather other pleasurable ways!
Have fun!
well if this man loves the person wanting to have sex with and she loves him back, ';well';, do it!!!!!!!!!!!!
It's still possible just move the stomach around.
Reverse cowgirl?
floating helicopter
Keep the lights off...
my mom borrows my skateboard when that happens.
reverse cowgirl, good luck
is it ya husband?
I'm a single parent in need of advice on dating. How to find a Good Man and keep him?
concentrate on your child first,. and then when u r ready u need to realize there may be many let downs cuz guys dont like baggage,... but dont give up,. there are still nice guys out there that will!!!I'm a single parent in need of advice on dating. How to find a Good Man and keep him?
I agree with Cris. However, don't go looking for men, just let it happen. I might add that going to church and participating in your children's activities will make you stand out if a man is looking for a good woman.
I'm a single parent in need of advice on dating. How to find a Good Man and keep him?
be yourself
First of all, don't try to ';find'; him. Some of the best guys are the ones that you just happened to meet in an un-likely place. Then, when you meet him, just be yourself, if it's meant to be, he's not going any place.
well my mom was single mom almost my whole life...im still young but from my advise find someone that loves you and your children both...and someone that your children aprove of...because trust me...my moms been through many bf's in my life...and if me and my brother didnt like him..it never worked out..my moms married now..but i love her husband..hes the father i never had...
Good luck, I'm in the same situation.Single mom of 2 kids work full time, been single 2 1/2 years.When you get the best answer forward it to me.lol
After my divorce I was single for 3 years.But then my bestfriend set me up on a blind date.We have been together for a year now.I don't know how I have managed to keep him other than I have just been myself.He is an angel sent from above and YOU have an angel out there somewhere.just be patient.Good luck to my fellow single mother!!!!!!!
look at supermarket in vegtable dept. he will be puzzled and need help with melons or something as he shops for first time. he will be buying many TV dinners. he will not be cute. his wife left him for somebody cute. he has a job and does not have time to cook breakfast so maybe at the McDonalds breakfst line.
look for him to be up and about very early in the morning. he is not lazy. early bird gets worm. he is going to work at 5-6AM
he may be at a bank cashing a paycheck on friday. he will not be found in bars or pool halls. he may go to prostitutes. yes, many respectable single men take this option rather than play the games women play. hang out at massage parlors and fake a car problem when you see a good one. you can tell by his clothes. especially shoes.
go to places where men hang out like lakes and rivers and tennis courts and golf clubs. he may be at a car race.
he can usually be found at a baseball game. he will be with his kids on sunday in fast food places at lunchtime if he is divorced. check out chuckie cheese for divorced men too. they are the best as they are trained. the old bachelors are impossible to land. forget them.
you keep him by being nice to him and being a girl instead of an old battle-axe. be positive and lively and happy and cheery. give him attention, appreciation and affection and he will never leave you or cheat. never criticise, complain or try to control him. never cheat on him. you will keep him
forgive his small faults and concentrate on his strengths and remind him a lot of how great he is.
show him your boobies!
to keep him, show him your boobies!
be willing to accept the truth about being a single parent and be honest about yourself and take a chance on love again cause this time you never know what could happen with the next guy so keep your head girl i been there before
I am in the same boat myself, Just concentrate on raising your kid.
first off dont go looking....and second, be true to yourself, be yourself and let him see the woman that you are. Make sure that you do not bring any men around your child, until you know hes the one. when you go out, know what you want. if you can carry on a conversation with him, and you can keep and he can keep eye contact, then that's a good sign, just go slow.....
I need this same advice girlfriend, when you find it email it to me too!
Im 34, 3 kids, career bound, own job, car and pay my bills (somewhat..lol)
but cant find a good man anywhere
i know i am being a little picky, but i dont want a bum! lol
i cant find one either.........
where do you live? add that info to your question, maybe i can look up some places for you to go..lol
and likewise for me too......im in cleveland ohio
Sorry, I took the last one that was available!!
I agree with Cris. However, don't go looking for men, just let it happen. I might add that going to church and participating in your children's activities will make you stand out if a man is looking for a good woman.
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I'm a single parent in need of advice on dating. How to find a Good Man and keep him?
be yourself
First of all, don't try to ';find'; him. Some of the best guys are the ones that you just happened to meet in an un-likely place. Then, when you meet him, just be yourself, if it's meant to be, he's not going any place.
well my mom was single mom almost my whole life...im still young but from my advise find someone that loves you and your children both...and someone that your children aprove of...because trust me...my moms been through many bf's in my life...and if me and my brother didnt like him..it never worked out..my moms married now..but i love her husband..hes the father i never had...
Good luck, I'm in the same situation.Single mom of 2 kids work full time, been single 2 1/2 years.When you get the best answer forward it to me.lol
After my divorce I was single for 3 years.But then my bestfriend set me up on a blind date.We have been together for a year now.I don't know how I have managed to keep him other than I have just been myself.He is an angel sent from above and YOU have an angel out there somewhere.just be patient.Good luck to my fellow single mother!!!!!!!
look at supermarket in vegtable dept. he will be puzzled and need help with melons or something as he shops for first time. he will be buying many TV dinners. he will not be cute. his wife left him for somebody cute. he has a job and does not have time to cook breakfast so maybe at the McDonalds breakfst line.
look for him to be up and about very early in the morning. he is not lazy. early bird gets worm. he is going to work at 5-6AM
he may be at a bank cashing a paycheck on friday. he will not be found in bars or pool halls. he may go to prostitutes. yes, many respectable single men take this option rather than play the games women play. hang out at massage parlors and fake a car problem when you see a good one. you can tell by his clothes. especially shoes.
go to places where men hang out like lakes and rivers and tennis courts and golf clubs. he may be at a car race.
he can usually be found at a baseball game. he will be with his kids on sunday in fast food places at lunchtime if he is divorced. check out chuckie cheese for divorced men too. they are the best as they are trained. the old bachelors are impossible to land. forget them.
you keep him by being nice to him and being a girl instead of an old battle-axe. be positive and lively and happy and cheery. give him attention, appreciation and affection and he will never leave you or cheat. never criticise, complain or try to control him. never cheat on him. you will keep him
forgive his small faults and concentrate on his strengths and remind him a lot of how great he is.
show him your boobies!
to keep him, show him your boobies!
be willing to accept the truth about being a single parent and be honest about yourself and take a chance on love again cause this time you never know what could happen with the next guy so keep your head girl i been there before
I am in the same boat myself, Just concentrate on raising your kid.
first off dont go looking....and second, be true to yourself, be yourself and let him see the woman that you are. Make sure that you do not bring any men around your child, until you know hes the one. when you go out, know what you want. if you can carry on a conversation with him, and you can keep and he can keep eye contact, then that's a good sign, just go slow.....
I need this same advice girlfriend, when you find it email it to me too!
Im 34, 3 kids, career bound, own job, car and pay my bills (somewhat..lol)
but cant find a good man anywhere
i know i am being a little picky, but i dont want a bum! lol
i cant find one either.........
where do you live? add that info to your question, maybe i can look up some places for you to go..lol
and likewise for me too......im in cleveland ohio
Sorry, I took the last one that was available!!
Can you give me some advice on how to break up with this man?
I have been with my boyfriend for six months but I think its time for us to part ways for a lot of reasons. For one, I am in my twenties and he is in his forties.
I had a feeling that he was constantly lying to me and then yesterday I caught him in a ridiculous lie. All of a sudden realise that he is manipulative and controlling and on top of all that he's a liar.
*Deep Breath* Okay, So I'm a little angry at myself for not realizing this earlier...
I've never been shy about breaking things off with anyone before, but I think with this man it's going to be hard. A month or so ago I was teasing about breaking up and he told me very seriously that he wouldn't let me go and that he always gets what he wants. I was flattered at the time but now I'm freaked out.
Any advice for breaking things off?Can you give me some advice on how to break up with this man?
Run girl. Run like the wind. Change your address, your phone number, your e-mail.
Tell him honestly how you feel and that you want to break up and be very straight forward about the fact that you don't want to see him again. Be firm. Do not allow yourself to answer his calls. If he continues to bother you, get a restraint order.
This is a scary situacion. I've been with a very controlling man before and they're not easy to leave. My last boyfriend cheated on me for several months, lied in abundance, and then manipulated my thinking into thinking it was all okay. When we finally did break-up, he drank himself nearly to death, and every other day he would tell me he tried to kill himself and failed. You will be pretty vulnerable....and you still care....but its best to just turn a blind eye. Get on with your life and date someone who is deserving of you! :DCan you give me some advice on how to break up with this man?
IT is over.
I had a feeling that he was constantly lying to me and then yesterday I caught him in a ridiculous lie. All of a sudden realise that he is manipulative and controlling and on top of all that he's a liar.
*Deep Breath* Okay, So I'm a little angry at myself for not realizing this earlier...
I've never been shy about breaking things off with anyone before, but I think with this man it's going to be hard. A month or so ago I was teasing about breaking up and he told me very seriously that he wouldn't let me go and that he always gets what he wants. I was flattered at the time but now I'm freaked out.
Any advice for breaking things off?Can you give me some advice on how to break up with this man?
Run girl. Run like the wind. Change your address, your phone number, your e-mail.
Tell him honestly how you feel and that you want to break up and be very straight forward about the fact that you don't want to see him again. Be firm. Do not allow yourself to answer his calls. If he continues to bother you, get a restraint order.
This is a scary situacion. I've been with a very controlling man before and they're not easy to leave. My last boyfriend cheated on me for several months, lied in abundance, and then manipulated my thinking into thinking it was all okay. When we finally did break-up, he drank himself nearly to death, and every other day he would tell me he tried to kill himself and failed. You will be pretty vulnerable....and you still care....but its best to just turn a blind eye. Get on with your life and date someone who is deserving of you! :DCan you give me some advice on how to break up with this man?
IT is over.
What really turns guys on? What do they really like? I wanna know how to get and keep the perfect man. Advice?
well, to keep a guy is by doing stuff to him like bjs and finger sucking at random times. but careful if it's a bad boy kind of guy, cuz he'll think he owns you, and is better than you. you basically need to be a catch and have a life that keeps you really busy. give hime some, but not all the time. he'll want moreWhat really turns guys on? What do they really like? I wanna know how to get and keep the perfect man. Advice?
cleavage cleavage cleavage cleavage cleavageWhat really turns guys on? What do they really like? I wanna know how to get and keep the perfect man. Advice?
Want to turn a guy on, Suck on his finger, seriously. It works when I had it done to me.
i think 3 really nasty bjs a day would be enough to keep me involved in any relationship.
Be your self, take care of your image, the Mr. Right will come soon for you! ;)
uh your asking the impossible. every guy differs. for example most guys like porn my bf thinks its tacky. some guys get turned on by boobs other wont care if your flat but have a great butt. so seriously you will never ever find this guy.
cleavage cleavage cleavage cleavage cleavageWhat really turns guys on? What do they really like? I wanna know how to get and keep the perfect man. Advice?
Want to turn a guy on, Suck on his finger, seriously. It works when I had it done to me.
i think 3 really nasty bjs a day would be enough to keep me involved in any relationship.
Be your self, take care of your image, the Mr. Right will come soon for you! ;)
uh your asking the impossible. every guy differs. for example most guys like porn my bf thinks its tacky. some guys get turned on by boobs other wont care if your flat but have a great butt. so seriously you will never ever find this guy.
Any guy advice on how i can make my man go crazy in bed?
I would actually suggest something you may think ridiculous: Ask him! If you really want to drive him crazy, ask his opinion on how he wants things to be? How he wants it exactly when you do a bj to him, or what lingerie he wants to see you in, does he like having a script when having sex? (doctor and nurses are popular), does he like it rough or slow and gentle?. Communication is important to achieve success in bed ;]Any guy advice on how i can make my man go crazy in bed?
i think the best thing you can do is to find out what he really likes and then do that. most guys like the typical, the bj's, anal, but each guy has certain things that drive them wild specifically, ask him what his is, or explore his body and pay attention to what he really likes, do that and that should drive him crazyAny guy advice on how i can make my man go crazy in bed?
watch a porn. do the stuff that you think is tasteful. Copy what they say, but say it in a believable way.
also, dress up in lingerie.
also, give good oral sex.
also, be verbal and enthusiastic during the act. DOnt just lay there and make no noise. We like it when the woman makes noise. Dont sound fake though.
Play with your clit so that you squirt. We love to see that what we have done to our girl makes them orgasm. Shows we have satisfied them. Dont fake it.
You can begin by researching some books on the matter while also viewing some porn for ideas. Talking with other people helps too ;) and of course, practice makes perfect.
Lastly, it also depends on the guy...
Sensuously kiss him from his toes to his head and everywhere in between. If you have high bedposts, tie him up so he can't move.
All guys are different. You have to ask and play with stuff. Many get hung up on BJ's, but even those in themselves are not always the best to every guy.
My cousin said use a tie..
The neckties..he said it soo hot when a chick uses it in bed to rub his balls nd dick.
I cnt believe he said dat but that was his answer.
Good LUck
It will suffice to show him that you are eager to get him there.
Tell him you're a guy, that should make him go crazy.
first put your.... on his ......... then ...........him up the...........his ....... will...........really big and .............
Stick a finger up his butt.
tell him he can't have sex... that'll push him over the edge... :D
Bj, kiss his neck, strip for him be really kinky
Let him do you in the butt
butt sex. gets 'em every time.
Tense, down there. will go mad.
blow him!!makeup skin
i think the best thing you can do is to find out what he really likes and then do that. most guys like the typical, the bj's, anal, but each guy has certain things that drive them wild specifically, ask him what his is, or explore his body and pay attention to what he really likes, do that and that should drive him crazyAny guy advice on how i can make my man go crazy in bed?
watch a porn. do the stuff that you think is tasteful. Copy what they say, but say it in a believable way.
also, dress up in lingerie.
also, give good oral sex.
also, be verbal and enthusiastic during the act. DOnt just lay there and make no noise. We like it when the woman makes noise. Dont sound fake though.
Play with your clit so that you squirt. We love to see that what we have done to our girl makes them orgasm. Shows we have satisfied them. Dont fake it.
You can begin by researching some books on the matter while also viewing some porn for ideas. Talking with other people helps too ;) and of course, practice makes perfect.
Lastly, it also depends on the guy...
Sensuously kiss him from his toes to his head and everywhere in between. If you have high bedposts, tie him up so he can't move.
All guys are different. You have to ask and play with stuff. Many get hung up on BJ's, but even those in themselves are not always the best to every guy.
My cousin said use a tie..
The neckties..he said it soo hot when a chick uses it in bed to rub his balls nd dick.
I cnt believe he said dat but that was his answer.
Good LUck
It will suffice to show him that you are eager to get him there.
Tell him you're a guy, that should make him go crazy.
first put your.... on his ......... then ...........him up the...........his ....... will...........really big and .............
Stick a finger up his butt.
tell him he can't have sex... that'll push him over the edge... :D
Bj, kiss his neck, strip for him be really kinky
Let him do you in the butt
butt sex. gets 'em every time.
Tense, down there. will go mad.
blow him!!
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