Dating a military man... I need advice on this please!!! Through an online dating site I made a connection...?

with a guy deployed in Iraq on a 15 month tour in the US Army we began talking fairly steadily online/phone/email during the end of april which was near the end of his stay there. We hit it off really well and made plans to meet when he got back. The last I heard from him was May 21st and he got back last week sometime. He said he would call as soon as he got back to the states, but I haven't heard one word from him. I know he checked his myspace but only every few days. Today will mark 2 weeks since I've heard anything, I know post-deployment they have reintegration training for a set amount of days, but that wouldn't keep him from sending a short email would it? If he was a civilian I'd have given up long ago because he is military I feel like its a different beast. I know that being with a soldier takes loads of patience, but am I being too patient? Should I give up and move on? When he was over there I can understand long periods of no contact, but hes back now. Any advice please!Dating a military man... I need advice on this please!!! Through an online dating site I made a connection...?
I would move on. Two weeks is plenty of time for him to contact you if he really wanted to. Sometimes when deployed we make all these promises for things to do when we get back, and like new year's resolutions we don't always stick to them. He may have wanted a relationship, but when put back in the real world he may have not been so sure.Dating a military man... I need advice on this please!!! Through an online dating site I made a connection...?
Beware soldiers with PTSD.
After 2 weeks I'd definetly move on....Like you said it's one thing when he's on deployment. But he's home now and has access to phone, internet, etc whenever he wants it and still hasn't contacted you. So obviously he was just lonely while he was deployed and, unfortunately for you, you were how he kept from being lonely. Just be glad you didn't invest anymore time than you did.
the military world is a harsh one often soliders will find people online i have watched freinds and family bounce from one online girl freind to another some of them are even married and just lonely i have even seen men leave their wives and kids for online girls you should atleast seek closure in it all and ask him what is going on because you want closure i would move on and be happy you dont need someone bouncing around its a common thing with in the military im really sorry you got a bad apple but know that not all of them are bad apples most are just young kids











if youd read my answer youd realize i said im sorry you got a bad apple but not all of them are bad ;)





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It's true that he may not even be back yet. Even when they give you a date it could slide one way or another even in the middle of the travel. One of my friends had her husband get stuck in Germany for several days with no contact. They wanted him by the plane as it was always leaving ';soon'; so he couldn't get to a phone or a computer that he could call long distance from. Fortunately she was a wife so was able to find out a bit of what had happened and wasn't waiting at the airport for him but it was still very frustrating for her.
Are you sure he IS back? They can get held up on the way home for all sorts of reasons, and when they get home depending on what they have been doing, they can spend a few days in de-briefing. If he is back and on leave then there will be all sortsof calls on his time from other people. When my husband comes home from a deployment we are flooded with visitors for weeks from his Mother (quite understandably!) to friends, neighbours and Colleagues and it's all a bit mad for a while.


If I were you I wouldn't lose heart just yet.