Thursday, August 19, 2010

Advice for a young person on how to become a man?

What should he know? Pretend for a moment that he was your son...





Thanks ;)Advice for a young person on how to become a man?
Work hard. Listen Closely. Learn EVERYTHING He can. Save. And above ALL- be Compassionate. And if your Son grows up to Do all these Things, then He shall SURELY Be- among the BEST of All Men... :)Advice for a young person on how to become a man?
i'd tell my boy that the best thing he can do in life is to search for true happiness. not plastic happiness. money, drugs, objects, none of that is the key. if he can find a wife who loves him, trust that when the unthinkable happens, that God is in us all and he can save us when we're in time of trouble, and if he stands up for the things he cherishes most (even if they're ';plastic';) that he will be a true Man in the eyes of God, in the eyes of humans and in the eyes of his own father. he has to believe. in God, in himself, and believe that his father tells him this to help him succeed in life, not to preach to the choir.


i'd tell him if his destiny is to be a man look at a person you consider to be a man and emulate them
While giving some good advice is worthwhile, modeling what these authors teach is probably more long-term building of virtue and strength:





';Adventurer's Guide,'; Jack Wheeler,


';Man, Master of His Destiny,'; O. M. Aivanhov,


';The Great Divorce,'; C. S. Lewis,


';Stay Alive, My Son,'; Pin Yathay,


';When Invisible Children Sing,'; Chang, M.D.,


';They Call Me Coach,'; John Wooden,


';For Men Only,'; Shaunti Feldhahn, and,


to lighten things up a bit,


';A Pelican at Blandings,'; P. G. Wodehouse,


';Alcatraz versus the Evil Librarians,'; Brandon Sanderson,


';In a Sunburned Country,'; Bill Bryson, and,


to go into the mystical a bit,


';The Path of the Higher Self,'; Mark Prophet,


';Momo,'; Michael Ende, and, to go against the current zeitgeist,


';University of Destruction,'; David Wheaton, and


';Liberal Fascism,'; Jonah Goldberg.





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How to deal with critical situations. How to decide things by his own. How to stand stand firm against the challenge by the time.
The most significant characteristic of a real man is that he does not avoid his duties and responsibilities.
Look in Hamlet (W.Shakespeare) - Portious address to Laurties.
Read the Bible and follow the example of Jesus; love God %26amp; follow his teachings.
Be a leader.


Stand up for yourself.


Believe in yourself.





Thats what ill tell my son.
Self respect.

Single... I need advice on how to get and keep a man?

I love being single or should i say i did I've been soingle for a long time but latley some guys that I kno have been asking why don't i have a boyfriend because they think i'm really pretty. I've been getting asked these questions frequentlyand i'm tired of hearing ';Avi, Why don't you have a boyfriend. I've started to wonder to because guys are always telling me and texing me on how beautiful or gorgeous they think i am and i when i go to the store or mall i always get asked my number or hit on usually i don't call thouse guys back because of my mom but that's another issue. If guys hit on me and some have told me they really like me why don't they act on their impulses and ask me out. I'm fustrated and i don't get it. Help plz to let me kno why i'm still alone.Single... I need advice on how to get and keep a man?
You know how guys are...sometime they are just too scared to go up to a lady and simply ask her out. But I think the answer to your question of why you are still alone is because you are worrying about it too much. Just relax and enjoy your time as a single person, even though it may be hard to do. Don't worry, God will send you someone special when the time is right. Even if you're not looking for that special someone, you still have to wait on the Lord. Just be patient!Single... I need advice on how to get and keep a man?
i can relate to that and i feel same way too...but i just think positively. i am alone but i not lonely... i want to know guys answer about this too..pls help !!! lol
Hi avanti its nice to have some one with whom you can spend some quality time, having freinds is good, now if you think you need some one special I think you must prepare yourself for that.

My sister is in love with a man who cheats on her...advice please?

My sister is in love with a man she could never trust. He cheats on her so much she's not even sure if the baby she's carrying is his. What should I tell her to do?My sister is in love with a man who cheats on her...advice please?
Okay now, I have a question. ';He cheats on her so much she's not even sure the baby she's carrying is HIS? Ummmm..., who is cheating on whom?My sister is in love with a man who cheats on her...advice please?
Is your sister blonde?
you just have to let her live her own life. back out of it but always be there for her when she needs you. and never tell her ';i told you so';.
Your sister's in love with a man who cheats on her...YET.. she's not sure if the baby she's carrying is his???? This makes no sense. If she's not sure if the baby is his or not, does that not mean that she has cheated on him????
tell her to stop cheating!
why don't you talk to that man if you can,try to know that guy better and make him understand the family values though its not easy if he's really a cheater but the other thing is who's the cheater here as u said ur 'sis' even don't know who's baby she's carrying i'm sorry ,just talk about it with people involved.
WHEN A PERSON IS IN LOVE AND SOMEONE DONT APPROVE THEM BEING TOGETHER ITS GOING TO MAKE HER LOVE HIM MORE. SO REALLY ITS NOTHING YOU CAN TELL HER SHE WILL HAVE TO FIND OUT FOR HERSELF
CHEAT ON HIM WITH YOUR SISTER.
tell her to leave him, be a good brother!!!
Stay out of it.... you will always be the bad guy
ok so he cheats on your sister but your sister says the baby might not be his. How can that be . maybe they belong together. Both seem to be cheating to me.
tell her to leave him.. follow the guy and take pictures ..
That doesn't make any sense, but....my advice: M Y O B !
If she's not sure that her baby is his it sounds like she may be cheating as well.


But generally there's nothing you can do. You can talk to her and let he know how you feel but she's her own person and she will make her own decisions. Maybe one day she'll wake up and realize that she deserves better but until then....just try to be supportive of her (not her relationship just her).
Okay, first, if she's not sure if the baby is his, then she's the one cheating. That's a problem in it's own.


Second, love is blind and no matter what you tell her, she's got to be the one who sees it on her own. You can say things to her for her to notice later but don't preach. And never give her an altimadum. She's going to burn herself out on him eventually and will need you to be there when she finally cracks.


You can say things to her like, ';the one'; for you, the perfect man to match your needs, would he cheat on you, or would he be a trustworthy loving man?


There's a lot of things on the Dr. Phil website that are very relevant to this. I'm aware that many people think he's annoying, however you don't have to hear is voice on the site. I suggest going there, looking stuff up and rephrasing for the next time you two have a chat about where her life is heading.


Best of luck!
ok, 1 question of my own, SHE is pregnant, and HE cheats, so how could the baby NOT be HIS??? so, im confused, who's cheating HIM or HER????
Why would the baby not be his unless she cheated too.... You can't tell her anything really. Try to find physical proof (pictures and stuff.)
Leave him
what do mean that she is not sure if the baby she carring is not his? is she cheating to?

I'm engaged to a man who has a young daughter. I'd like advice on how to develop a relationship with her.

His daughter is four years-old. how do I develop a relationship with her without oversteping boundaries or acting like a ';step mom.'; The bigger issue is that my fiancee was just sent to Iraq, so without him around to help with the process I'm nervous and afraid to mess it up!I'm engaged to a man who has a young daughter. I'd like advice on how to develop a relationship with her.
First of all, with him being in Iraq it can cause problems with createing a relationship. I have experienced that honesty is the best policey. With a two family sceanario everyone needs to be on the same foot. I would drop a message to the girls mother. Explain that you would like to play a part in your fiancee's daughters life, because she is a part of his. Explain that whatever happened between the two of them isn't your concern. If you present yourself in a possitive way, and express that you want to develop a positive relationship with the daughter without stepping on toes, I'm sure you will get a positive responce. Maybe mommy could use a babysitter sometime, or maybe mommy knows some ideas about how to get the daughters attention. Establishing a positive relationship with both of the daughters parents can also lead to a positive relationship with the daughter. Also make sure the father knows that you would like to have a relationship with his daughter. He could be supportive and helpful with ideas as well. Whatever you do, do not pressure the child to want a relationship with you. Let her determine that a relationship is what she would want.





Good luck.I'm engaged to a man who has a young daughter. I'd like advice on how to develop a relationship with her.
if you can try to do it mutually with her mom it will go alot smoother good luck and thank your husband for serving our country
You don't say what happened to the real mother of the child? If she is only 4, it should be easy to get to know her and develop a bond. A teenager would be a different story, but I think it should be easy. Just talk to her, let her know you are there to take care of her and she can talk to you about anything. Be compassionate where the dad is concerned, it must be hard on her losing him and not having a real mother. But you ARE her stepmother, so act like one. She needs to know you love her and are there for her. Do things she likes to do to gain her trust. Play it by ear, it won't be hard.
I think as long as you are nice. Say nice things to her. No name calling. Be patient. Listen to her.





The same as building any relationship...only she is four.





You have the opportunity to really be a person of positive impact on her sweet little life. Just an additional person to lover her to pieces, and make her feel important, appreciated and valued in this big place we call earth!





Good Luck!
Spend some time with her and get to know her more. Gain her trust and her love and let her decide if she wants to look up to you as a motherly figure or not.
I'm thinking of you girl. I'm a military wife myself. To answer your question, the person you have in common, the reason why you need to develop a relationship with her is her dad, your fiance. So start there. Why don't you take her to the ';build a bear'; for you both to build a bear to send to her dad in Iraq. Maybe another time you can take her out to buy something for her dad for father's day or some crafts to write dad letters. Let those be step one. Then you can add some non-dad related activities once that foundation is there. Like going to the movies, to the beach, to the park, out to buy her mother/carer a gift. Don't rush the relationship though, just take it slow! Good luck to you all and congratulations on your engagement!
develop a strong mother --daughter realationship with her.....treat her like any mother would treat a child...take her out to the park...have fun with her... buy her things when she is good... discipline her when she is bad...treat her as if she were your own child !
Where is the child's mother and what does she feel about your relationship with her x? Those answers make a big difference in what your relationship with her child will be and how to go about it.
Do activities with her. But honestly, if I were your daughter-to-be, no matter who you are, I would totally ruin your life for you and give you as much pain as possible and avoid ALL contact. I know that doesn't help, but that's a real, honest, true opinion.
Well, I think it depends on if she's living w/ you full time or not. The fact is - if she's living w/ you then you ARE FORCED to step up and play the role of ';mom.'; She needs that love and stability in her life even if she doesn't know that. To me, one of the most important things is for the father to emphasize that you are not replacing her mom and that you love her and are allowed to discipline her. He has to support you in that or she will be allowed to walk all over you. You can try just being her friend but you must be able to give her guildelines as well. She has to respect you. If I were you, I would create special ';play dates'; that are just you and her. Find out what she's REALLY interested in - chances are, at that age, it's a cartoon character of some sort. If you live near a large city, find out if there are any ice skating shows coming to town. Like the Dora the Explorer show or something like that. She'd love that! If you can't do that, take her on a picnic to the local park! Or make a movie night where you guys make her fav dinner and she gets to choose the movie you rent! Don't worry - she'll love you in no time.
1st off, I hope you have some kind of civilized relationship with the mom, cause otherwise it's going to be hard. Do not in anyway make mom or child think you are trying to be a mommy figure. Maybe with the mom's permisssion you can send her little cards or drop off some small gifts ';from dad'; and just talk with the child about her daddy, I'm sure she is missing him bunches and she needs reassuring. You will have plenty of time to get to know her better when daddy gets home, until then easy does it. Good luck.
take your time reassure her you are not going to ever take the place of her mum


be her friend do activities with her to build a bond


but above all set boundries of what is not and what is acceptable


I am sure you will get there Good Luck
Respect her mother as the mom. Don't try and take her place . If the child feels like you are not a threat of interferring and are an ';in addition'; family member then she will feel safe to create a bond with you. Basically what I am saying is that you can be a mom to her without taking her moms place. Call her up to say hello, take her to lunch, remember her on special holidays. Take the time with her, playing, crafts, movies, making dinners etc. You can be a back up babysitter. Volunteer your time and ask her mother and dad what you can do to help out. They will all appreciate it and you get the benifits of ';fitting in'; without it being forced. Little steps at a time.


One thing, I loved my step mother. She passed away last year with me by her side. She never tried to take my moms place but was always a mother to me accepting my life the way it was and never jealous of my ';real mother';. She spent her time doing the little things with us and she never put us in a postition of ';choosing';. That is what makes a great step-';mom';. Good luck! It's fun, it's hard and it's totally worth it!
Be her friend, but don't let her walk all over you. Do activities together to build a bond.
Be yourself. There isnt a manual or a perfect way to do this. Kids are resilient so if you were to do small mess ups here and there they either will forget about it or move on or not even care or notice as long as you dont hurt her, and dont panic kids fall they get hurt its isnt your fault. Four is such a sweet tender age. Just dont be her friend, and dont over do it with rules and discipline but set rules, establish whats right and wrong, and talk to her, she can speak and understand you, talk with her not at her, just have love and patience in your heart and you'll be fine. Set routines for her to do her normal things like brush her teeth, pick up her toys etc and help her when she needs it dont baby her , set time aside to do fun stuff, coloring, walks, playing. You can do this. Good luck, you'll do just fine

Need advice on a car to fit in....I am a rather big man, ok huge man?

Any advice on comfortable cars for me to fit into? I am 6 foot 10, 340lbs.





http://s484.photobucket.com/albums/rr204鈥?/a>Need advice on a car to fit in....I am a rather big man, ok huge man?
Toyota FJ CruiserNeed advice on a car to fit in....I am a rather big man, ok huge man?
I sold a 2000 chevy 1500 full sized conversion van to a guy that was 6'8'' and probably around 600lbs. He was HUGE. We had to unbolt the drivers seat and move it back 12''. No dealer in the world will do it for you. Talk to a good repair shop and ask them if they would do something like that. You may have to sign a waver removing them from any liability but if they know what they are doing, you won't have any problem. We actually installed heavy duty brackets so we could be sure there would be no problem. BTW... No car is manufactured stock to seat such a big person. The closest you will get in a stock car is a full sized pick up truck. I have an 06 dodge ram and I fit perfectly, but I'm 6'6''. Good luck big dude.
What you should do is contact 10 NBA players and ask them if they have any custom fitted cars they are not using anymore. I used to own a detailing shop and shaqs car came in a few times. He had his cars customfitted and you know those guys are worth bucks. You might just get a generous guy that knows your problem.





Good luck






Damn u are a big dude. I can't think of any car you'd fit in comfortably. Try a good used full size p/u truck ext cab. You'll need that V8 power to haul your carcass around anyways. Good luck.
susburban, or an escalade.
navigator, they are nice and roomy.
holy shet...probably something without a roof
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  • Ladies what smell on man makes you horny for real? Practical advice please.?

    Did you experience that sensation? What about those pheromonal advertisized stuff that occur on internet?Ladies what smell on man makes you horny for real? Practical advice please.?
    um.......axe but def not a lot. like a little goes a long way with axe.......u can smell it all the way across a room. and it makes me horny for real. i just wanna get down and dirty with a man wearing axe!!!Ladies what smell on man makes you horny for real? Practical advice please.?
    coconut %26amp; baby oil just dreamy i just like both smells.
    A guy that smells like clean laundry.
    I LOVE THE SMELL OF CLEAN CLOTHES...GAIN...AND COLOGNE...CLEAN SMELLING COLOGNE, NOTHING WITH TOO MUCH MUSK.
    I love the smell of cologne. it turns me on like no other.
    versace blue jeans. if sex had a smell it would smell like that. lol.
    the smell of soap, I like a clean smell on men, I don't like most of the colognes for men, I think they smell funny.
    i like plain old axe, its only like 4 dollars at any drug store! i love that smell, it makes me want to eat the guy up!
    The natural smell of a man. If, however, he wants to wear cologne then a light amount of Polo. Just enough that you have to get very close to smell it.
    armani makes a light clean-smelling cologne called mania. does the trick every time ;)
    Drakkar turns me on !

    Advice on how to deal with this creepy man?

    I'm a hostess at a restaurant and there is a new bus boy who is REALLY creepy. Today I noticed as I was standing at the door that the bus boy was standing at his station (which is about 30 feet away from me) faced towards me STARING straight at me and he was copying everything I was doing. For example, I was rubbing lotion in my hands and he started rubbing lotion in his hands. And when I noticed that, I tested him- I put my hands behind my back, and he did the same. Then I crossed my arms, and he copied. Then I rested my chin on my hand, and he did the same! He just watched every little thing I did and copied me and just kept standing there staring! What does this mean? What should I do?Advice on how to deal with this creepy man?
    Definitely talk to your boss about it. You shouldn't have to deal with stuff like that in the workplace. Inform your boss that you don't want the bus boy knowing you reported him. A good boss will pull this guy aside and tell him he noticed the weird behavior. The boss should make it look like he noticed all on his own without being told. That will save you from worrying about retaliation and hopefully he'll either stop or get fired. Advice on how to deal with this creepy man?
    He's attracted to you. He wants to get your attention. If you are intrigued talk to him about it. If he comes across wrong, if you get the impression you don't want anything more to happen between you two. tell him to knock it off. If he doesn't, tell the manager. There is no good reason for you to be uncomfortable with a situation you cannot control,namely, his weirdness.
    Tell your boss. (You can do it anonymously if you want.)
    ask him what is his problem! HE SOUNDS LIKE HE HAS A WEIRD CREEPY CRUSH ON YOU!!





    EDIT: RUNNNNNN, SOUNDS EVEN MORE CREEPIER THAN I THOUGHT. HONESTLY I THINK HE'S A K I L L E R. U SHOULD LET SOMEONE AT YOUR JOB KNOW ABOUT THIS
    That's hilarious, I should start doing that. Start copying him back or something. Come up with your own gimmick.
    If I were you? (I know you won't want to do this) I'd dig up my nose, and flick a booger in his direction. ( ^ _ ^ ) That'll show him!
    Oh my, now I know why I love Yahoo answers. You guys make me laugh. I love the humor!





    Honestly though, make sure this guy doesn't follow you to your car. And yes, tell your boss. Who knows he could be just a silly guy or very dangerous. Keep an eye on him and watch yourself.





    PSSS- Go right up to him and ask him if he is OK and ask him if he needs any help because he's acting strangely. That ought to get him thinking.