I have a horrible temper lol..naturally red headed and all :-P i try my best to keep in control and i dont like stupid immature fights n sh!t. so im searching my mind for the right words for the situation to tell her to back off and let us live our lives..but maturely..but still get a strong point across. im just tired of her textin my man pretty much sayin she dont like us being together she wants him,,,but in round about ways..and bout her car n sh!t wantin him to fix it..my first response is to tell her there are magic places around town with magic people and they are known to human as auto mechanics :-o but thats childish. help me yall..pretty please and if ya like cherries on top then your wish is my command lawl.Need some advice on the best approach for slutty girls to back off my man?
As far as I'm concerned this is his responsibility. He should be the one telling her f-off. I've dealt with a girl like that myself. Those kind of girls are like leeches and need to be told off by him they don't listen to gfs if just gives them an excuse to think you are a *****. Talk to him about it let him know how you feel and tell him to put her in her place. Change his phone number if he has to.Need some advice on the best approach for slutty girls to back off my man?
He needs to handle it, and I would sweetly tell him that the way he does sends two messages, one to her and one to you. His words/actions will convey to you and to her what value he places on your feelings and on his relationship with you.
Lawl. You're funny. I love red heads. :]
Sadly, there isn't a civil way to approach this matter.
Especially when dealing with sluts. You have to calmly tell them to back off. If that doesn't work, bust a can of whoop-assery. Haha. Just be very straightforward. :) Best of wishes!
Be blunt. tell her to backoff. He is with YOU, not her or her slutty ways. Tell her you don't like her being in contact with him and trying to hook up with him. If she says you're just jealous, tell her you're simply protecting the one you love. If she still insists on a bit*hfest, just walk away and ignore her. Also talk to him about it. Let him know how much it bothers you and how upset it makes you. If he really cares, he'll do something. maybe not much, but something. Even if it's ignoring her calls or her txts. Sooner or later she'll get the message.
Thursday, August 19, 2010
Need advice on this one my ex husband is a crontrolling and possesive man its my third time out fromhim i bee?
its been 7months now and its so hard as i still have feelings for him,I just want to know why do they make you feel like crap he knows how upset i get and now he tells me i changed and i am bad i am just so upset i just feel like going back to him to make him happy and as i said i still love him emotionally not physically what would you guys think of this i am so sick of feeling bad and by the way he got my grown children on his side its so hard i am Living by myself and i don't have any family they died and its so very had to move forward i got a support network but its not like my own husband and kids now i understand why in domestic violence the women go back on average 7 times please any adviceNeed advice on this one my ex husband is a crontrolling and possesive man its my third time out fromhim i bee?
Been there done it. Whats next a punch in the mouth? A slap across the face? A broken nose HMM or maybe death!
THINK about it..YOU Are a damn doormat without a spine girl!
Do me a favor, call the YWCA. They have a support group AND help for women like you ...Trust me I know..without them I would not be alive.Need advice on this one my ex husband is a crontrolling and possesive man its my third time out fromhim i bee?
as you say your growing children
you have move out well keep going, as the first person who answer say get help because as far as I am concern your family is no help to you, maybe they ar shock that for the forst time you are thinking and actng like a person should
Take care
Been there done it. Whats next a punch in the mouth? A slap across the face? A broken nose HMM or maybe death!
THINK about it..YOU Are a damn doormat without a spine girl!
Do me a favor, call the YWCA. They have a support group AND help for women like you ...Trust me I know..without them I would not be alive.Need advice on this one my ex husband is a crontrolling and possesive man its my third time out fromhim i bee?
as you say your growing children
you have move out well keep going, as the first person who answer say get help because as far as I am concern your family is no help to you, maybe they ar shock that for the forst time you are thinking and actng like a person should
Take care
Need advice on how to end an affair im having with a married man?
I realize that I knew he was married from the beggining but i continued. Now that things have developed more I feel very guilty and don't know how to end this because I feel something very special for him. I really don't know what his true feeling toward me are but he keeps approaching me more and more. This realationship has been going on for about 5 months but I recently found out something that shocked me guess what his wife is about 4 months pregnant. I just don't understand what he wants from me cause everytime we make out he seems to enjoy it as i do. I dont know if he just wants that or if he truly loves me. I need some advice on how to end this relationship. Need advice on how to end an affair im having with a married man?
Just say NO next time he wants to talk to you or get together. Obviously, you were just a toy for him to pick up and drop whenever he wants. He's still having sex with his wife, he must love her. He's not going to leave her for you and if he did, he would do the same to you later. Wrong is wrong. I hope you learned your lesson. If you play with fire, you're gonna get burned.
Edit: If he won't leave you alone, tell him you are going to have a conversation with the wife, that should help.Need advice on how to end an affair im having with a married man?
you put yourself in his wife position, being pregnant and all. How would you feel if your husband was sorry enough to cheat on you? and only 1 year of marriage, and their first child. Stop thinking about yourself here, and think about her, and her feelings. This guy loves neither of you, he is just using you because he can and you allow him, and he does not love his wife, because if he did, he would not be cheating on her with you. I would not want to be around when she finds out, and believe me, she will....she probably already suspects something.
Wow. He is your manager?!?! Amazing. And he's been having an affair with you...while his new wife is home, pregnant?!?! Wow, wow, wow. He is scum!
Look, this is more than just a hideous situation, it's also illegal if he has used his position to get you to engage in this affair. Bring it to the attention of HR if the place you work is big enough.
Of course, it goes without saying that you need to end the relationship and cut off all contact...meaning no calls, no emails, no longing looks over the water cooler, nothing, nothing, nothing, no matter what.
It's really, really simple:
Stop taking his calls, don't answer the door, don't e-mail him.
Cut off all contact with him.
All he wants from you is sex--and you KNOW he's also having sex with wifey. He will never leave her for you. Stop letting him use you and find some self respect.
I hope you are really ashamed of yourself. In my opinion, women who see married men are completely amoral and deserve a lonely, loveless future.
What do you get out of having an affair? It will hurt you and his marriage. Regardless, this is wrong! You need to tell him it is over. He is married and he needs to be with his wife. What would you do if you were married and your husband had an affair and with another woman that was pregnant?
if feeling guilty wasnt enough , knowing you could be the cause of his child being born without a daddy there should be enough to walk away , and no im sorry its not your fault alone , it takes two and i would put more blame on him , actually i would go as far as saying he is a total loser !
oh my!! Your question is so similar to mine that I just posted!! Mine doesn't have a pregnant wife but she is desperate to get pregnant and he doesn't want kids right now! Wow!! We should really talk!! I haven't started the actual affair - yet. Well, physically, anyway. But it's coming quick! I guess you would tell me not to go along with it, huh?
Bad, bad bad trouble.
What I would suggest as the best cure is get another man pronto. It's going to be hard to drop this lover if you feel like you'll be alone if you do. Find another single guy and get something going and this married guy will start to become an annoyance to you.
The only way you will know how he feels is ask him, and he might lie to you. It's possible he could love you, there is no way to tell. Tell him you really love him but know it's not going to work out.
If all you do is make out then is just sex.
If you have been getting busy with him for 5 months and his wife is on 4 months pregnant you maybe warming him up for his wife.
Don't end it.
Married men need to get some too. Especially since his wife is preggers.
If if would lessen the guilt, just give him head, and leave the intercourse aside.
Tell him that you know his wife is pregnant and you couldn't possibably go on with your relationship knowing there is a baby on the way. You are doing the right thing. Good luck.
Just tell him you're done: simple as that. You both know you are wrong so he should not be shocked and you owe him no explanation. He is a married man, and you both should be ashamed.
sounds like to me you are going to have to get a new job and tell your man friend that enough is enough. and don't take no for an answer.
He wants his cake and eat it too that's what he wants..And you are letting him do just that..Just break it off with him is not going to leave his wife for you..
Let him know how are you feeling at this moment and see how he react then tell him you want to stop the relationship with him and why.
He 's just another married man who enjoys the thrill of cheating! A PIG!!
All you have to do is say GO HOME TO YOUR WIFE!!
or STAY Home with her!
Or better yet beat it PIG.
Don麓t end it!!! It麓s not ur problem if he has other relationships. Respect him and thus respect urself, only free people deserve happiness.
Here's your answer. Just quit spreading your legs. Then you will find out what he was interested in.
LEAVE HIM
ANYTHING LIKE FRED CLARK FROM DINNINGTON - HE CANNOT KEEP IT IN HIS TROUSERS.
bad....bad....bad...bad.... He must like football teams! oops cheerleading squads and BIG GIRLS!!!
Just say NO next time he wants to talk to you or get together. Obviously, you were just a toy for him to pick up and drop whenever he wants. He's still having sex with his wife, he must love her. He's not going to leave her for you and if he did, he would do the same to you later. Wrong is wrong. I hope you learned your lesson. If you play with fire, you're gonna get burned.
Edit: If he won't leave you alone, tell him you are going to have a conversation with the wife, that should help.Need advice on how to end an affair im having with a married man?
you put yourself in his wife position, being pregnant and all. How would you feel if your husband was sorry enough to cheat on you? and only 1 year of marriage, and their first child. Stop thinking about yourself here, and think about her, and her feelings. This guy loves neither of you, he is just using you because he can and you allow him, and he does not love his wife, because if he did, he would not be cheating on her with you. I would not want to be around when she finds out, and believe me, she will....she probably already suspects something.
Wow. He is your manager?!?! Amazing. And he's been having an affair with you...while his new wife is home, pregnant?!?! Wow, wow, wow. He is scum!
Look, this is more than just a hideous situation, it's also illegal if he has used his position to get you to engage in this affair. Bring it to the attention of HR if the place you work is big enough.
Of course, it goes without saying that you need to end the relationship and cut off all contact...meaning no calls, no emails, no longing looks over the water cooler, nothing, nothing, nothing, no matter what.
It's really, really simple:
Stop taking his calls, don't answer the door, don't e-mail him.
Cut off all contact with him.
All he wants from you is sex--and you KNOW he's also having sex with wifey. He will never leave her for you. Stop letting him use you and find some self respect.
I hope you are really ashamed of yourself. In my opinion, women who see married men are completely amoral and deserve a lonely, loveless future.
What do you get out of having an affair? It will hurt you and his marriage. Regardless, this is wrong! You need to tell him it is over. He is married and he needs to be with his wife. What would you do if you were married and your husband had an affair and with another woman that was pregnant?
if feeling guilty wasnt enough , knowing you could be the cause of his child being born without a daddy there should be enough to walk away , and no im sorry its not your fault alone , it takes two and i would put more blame on him , actually i would go as far as saying he is a total loser !
oh my!! Your question is so similar to mine that I just posted!! Mine doesn't have a pregnant wife but she is desperate to get pregnant and he doesn't want kids right now! Wow!! We should really talk!! I haven't started the actual affair - yet. Well, physically, anyway. But it's coming quick! I guess you would tell me not to go along with it, huh?
Bad, bad bad trouble.
What I would suggest as the best cure is get another man pronto. It's going to be hard to drop this lover if you feel like you'll be alone if you do. Find another single guy and get something going and this married guy will start to become an annoyance to you.
The only way you will know how he feels is ask him, and he might lie to you. It's possible he could love you, there is no way to tell. Tell him you really love him but know it's not going to work out.
If all you do is make out then is just sex.
If you have been getting busy with him for 5 months and his wife is on 4 months pregnant you maybe warming him up for his wife.
Don't end it.
Married men need to get some too. Especially since his wife is preggers.
If if would lessen the guilt, just give him head, and leave the intercourse aside.
Tell him that you know his wife is pregnant and you couldn't possibably go on with your relationship knowing there is a baby on the way. You are doing the right thing. Good luck.
Just tell him you're done: simple as that. You both know you are wrong so he should not be shocked and you owe him no explanation. He is a married man, and you both should be ashamed.
sounds like to me you are going to have to get a new job and tell your man friend that enough is enough. and don't take no for an answer.
He wants his cake and eat it too that's what he wants..And you are letting him do just that..Just break it off with him is not going to leave his wife for you..
Let him know how are you feeling at this moment and see how he react then tell him you want to stop the relationship with him and why.
He 's just another married man who enjoys the thrill of cheating! A PIG!!
All you have to do is say GO HOME TO YOUR WIFE!!
or STAY Home with her!
Or better yet beat it PIG.
Don麓t end it!!! It麓s not ur problem if he has other relationships. Respect him and thus respect urself, only free people deserve happiness.
Here's your answer. Just quit spreading your legs. Then you will find out what he was interested in.
LEAVE HIM
ANYTHING LIKE FRED CLARK FROM DINNINGTON - HE CANNOT KEEP IT IN HIS TROUSERS.
bad....bad....bad...bad.... He must like football teams! oops cheerleading squads and BIG GIRLS!!!
Advice on become a tougher, braver, stronger, more disciplined, and hotter young man. PLEASE! ANY HELP?
I'm a 16 year old guy that is 5 ft. 6in. tall and weighs 103 pounds.
(PLEASE ANSWER AT LEAST ONE QUESTION) (#2 I REALLY NEED)
1. What can I do to become strong and build muscle mass (especially in the arms).
2. I also want to work myself and exercise just like I was training for the army so I can become stronger, more disciplined, braver, and tougher! Suggest some websites if you can.
3. You can suggest anything else that I can do to become a tougher, braver, stronger, more disciplined, and hotter young man.Advice on become a tougher, braver, stronger, more disciplined, and hotter young man. PLEASE! ANY HELP?
1.Go to the gym or lift weights at home
#2You are the only one who can discipline yourself braveness is up to you suck it up and be a man and tougher is answered in #1
#1 can't really help in hotter some are born that way some can only ask the girl they like then it doesn't matter if your ugly cute or hotAdvice on become a tougher, braver, stronger, more disciplined, and hotter young man. PLEASE! ANY HELP?
you should find a local gym near you and hire a nutritionist.
eating healthy and exercise while definitely give you the look you want a deserve.
:)
Start taking a martial art. It will do wonders for the self discipline, strength and courage.
ok so here are some suggestions::
1). Go to the gym! Or evan if you can afford it get a personnel trainer.
2). I was doing a little research for you and i found this site check it out:%26lt;%26gt;http://www.diynetwork.com/diy/hobbies/article/0,2033,DIY_13951_2271282,00.html%26gt;
3). And now about the hotness factor, I would say make sure you keep up your appearance. Get the latest clothing from the hottest shops. Bye a couple flat hats a few plaid baggy shorts, and your in!
And to be braver just stand up to who or what ever is in your way, don't be scared face your fear. And to be tougher, Im not saying to be a bully but you gotta make sure that everybody knows when you come around they better back off and don't mess with you. To be more disciplined ive learned that the best thing to do is just go with the flow, meaning do what your told the first time and disregard any other thoughts you might have about the subject and only put in your head what you are told to do. So just do these easy steps and in no time you ll find yourself a better young man physically an d mentally.
So if you follow this and it works please tell me because I want to add it to my blog. Ok, good luck!blackheads eraser
(PLEASE ANSWER AT LEAST ONE QUESTION) (#2 I REALLY NEED)
1. What can I do to become strong and build muscle mass (especially in the arms).
2. I also want to work myself and exercise just like I was training for the army so I can become stronger, more disciplined, braver, and tougher! Suggest some websites if you can.
3. You can suggest anything else that I can do to become a tougher, braver, stronger, more disciplined, and hotter young man.Advice on become a tougher, braver, stronger, more disciplined, and hotter young man. PLEASE! ANY HELP?
1.Go to the gym or lift weights at home
#2You are the only one who can discipline yourself braveness is up to you suck it up and be a man and tougher is answered in #1
#1 can't really help in hotter some are born that way some can only ask the girl they like then it doesn't matter if your ugly cute or hotAdvice on become a tougher, braver, stronger, more disciplined, and hotter young man. PLEASE! ANY HELP?
you should find a local gym near you and hire a nutritionist.
eating healthy and exercise while definitely give you the look you want a deserve.
:)
Start taking a martial art. It will do wonders for the self discipline, strength and courage.
ok so here are some suggestions::
1). Go to the gym! Or evan if you can afford it get a personnel trainer.
2). I was doing a little research for you and i found this site check it out:%26lt;%26gt;http://www.diynetwork.com/diy/hobbies/article/0,2033,DIY_13951_2271282,00.html%26gt;
3). And now about the hotness factor, I would say make sure you keep up your appearance. Get the latest clothing from the hottest shops. Bye a couple flat hats a few plaid baggy shorts, and your in!
And to be braver just stand up to who or what ever is in your way, don't be scared face your fear. And to be tougher, Im not saying to be a bully but you gotta make sure that everybody knows when you come around they better back off and don't mess with you. To be more disciplined ive learned that the best thing to do is just go with the flow, meaning do what your told the first time and disregard any other thoughts you might have about the subject and only put in your head what you are told to do. So just do these easy steps and in no time you ll find yourself a better young man physically an d mentally.
So if you follow this and it works please tell me because I want to add it to my blog. Ok, good luck!
I need advice on how to control my urges of going back and forth from one man to another.?
I have this serious problem wiith thinking i am happy in hte relationship that i am in but then a guy comes along saying he can treat me alot better than that so l just keep looking for another guy and soo on. I want to have a family but every guy that i get with already has a child or several children and doesn't want one with me and that hurtsI need advice on how to control my urges of going back and forth from one man to another.?
I guess the first thing you could start with is dating someone that has no ';attachments'; so to speak. No kids, no ex-wives, nothing. This way it would be a new start for the both of you which tends to be less boring and the urge of looking for someone else will fade away. (if this is the right guy of course)
If it doesn't work out, try again and once you find you're match, the urge will be gone.
Hope this helps.I need advice on how to control my urges of going back and forth from one man to another.?
Try, try again.
im like that 2, but its in your control. You have to sit and think if thats what u really want. Do you really want to keep living your life that way? If you think about, if u keep doing this you are just setting up your heart to become hurt. You need to learn self-control. Maybe you should even stop dating 4 awhile. Get your self together and then start over. I think you should write a list of things you want in 1)a man, 2)in a relationship, 3)in yourself, and what you want in life. This should get you thinking. It wouldnt hurt to think about yourself instead of someone else. Hope I helped.
you'll find the right one..just don't give up
Is this the love that you are looking for but seem to miss from a man:
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.
1 Corinthians 13: 4-8
well stop tryna get a man, and spend that time in between to get to know yourself! that should be YOU time, so try and have alot of girls nite out @ home and forget the guy talk excluding models, actors, etc.....! Gotta have some excitement right!!!!! well, that way you will know yourself and eventually find the right guy thru know the right grl...YOURSELF!!!! HOPE IT HELPS!!!
i have the some problem but its bad cuz for some reason guys get too hooked up on me so i have tons of stockers. am worried.
Variety is the 'spice of life' ...
Well, first off, what you want isn't A guy, it's THE guy - and that takes time to figure out. If you're continually looking over your shoulder for something better, either you're not really ready to commit, or you're picking guys you instintively know you can't commit to.
What do the guys you pick have in common (besides you?). You mention that they already have a child, or several, for one thing. It'd be worth your while to list the guys you've been with and what they have in common - personality traits, lifestyle choices, everything. See if a pattern emerges.
The other thing they have in common is you. Are you afraid to commit? Did your parents have a happy, stable, successful relationship? Try to figure out if there's a pattern to your relationships. Is there a certain point at which you start looking around? If so, what is it?
If you go out hunting every day and don't bag your deer, then either you aren't really committed to catching a deer, or you're hunting in the wrong place. Having a successful relationship is part you, part him - it takes two people who are committed to the relationship and a future together. It sounds like you've never had either one, so it's time to ask yourself if this is truly what you want, and if it is, what you're doing that sabotages your success. Good luck!
Stop dating just to be dating...you don't have to always be in a relationship...learn to make yourself happy, and then you'll be in a better place to be a good partner for someone else...
...have standards, stop settling, and don't get involved with someone unless you really dig them...then it won't be so easy for someone else to come along and offer you something better...
Well try dating someone with no kids, and take ure time with it.
find a nice guy who loves you, if he trully loves you he wouldn't mind having a child with you!!!!!
good luck!!!!!!!!
I guess the first thing you could start with is dating someone that has no ';attachments'; so to speak. No kids, no ex-wives, nothing. This way it would be a new start for the both of you which tends to be less boring and the urge of looking for someone else will fade away. (if this is the right guy of course)
If it doesn't work out, try again and once you find you're match, the urge will be gone.
Hope this helps.I need advice on how to control my urges of going back and forth from one man to another.?
Try, try again.
im like that 2, but its in your control. You have to sit and think if thats what u really want. Do you really want to keep living your life that way? If you think about, if u keep doing this you are just setting up your heart to become hurt. You need to learn self-control. Maybe you should even stop dating 4 awhile. Get your self together and then start over. I think you should write a list of things you want in 1)a man, 2)in a relationship, 3)in yourself, and what you want in life. This should get you thinking. It wouldnt hurt to think about yourself instead of someone else. Hope I helped.
you'll find the right one..just don't give up
Is this the love that you are looking for but seem to miss from a man:
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.
1 Corinthians 13: 4-8
well stop tryna get a man, and spend that time in between to get to know yourself! that should be YOU time, so try and have alot of girls nite out @ home and forget the guy talk excluding models, actors, etc.....! Gotta have some excitement right!!!!! well, that way you will know yourself and eventually find the right guy thru know the right grl...YOURSELF!!!! HOPE IT HELPS!!!
i have the some problem but its bad cuz for some reason guys get too hooked up on me so i have tons of stockers. am worried.
Variety is the 'spice of life' ...
Well, first off, what you want isn't A guy, it's THE guy - and that takes time to figure out. If you're continually looking over your shoulder for something better, either you're not really ready to commit, or you're picking guys you instintively know you can't commit to.
What do the guys you pick have in common (besides you?). You mention that they already have a child, or several, for one thing. It'd be worth your while to list the guys you've been with and what they have in common - personality traits, lifestyle choices, everything. See if a pattern emerges.
The other thing they have in common is you. Are you afraid to commit? Did your parents have a happy, stable, successful relationship? Try to figure out if there's a pattern to your relationships. Is there a certain point at which you start looking around? If so, what is it?
If you go out hunting every day and don't bag your deer, then either you aren't really committed to catching a deer, or you're hunting in the wrong place. Having a successful relationship is part you, part him - it takes two people who are committed to the relationship and a future together. It sounds like you've never had either one, so it's time to ask yourself if this is truly what you want, and if it is, what you're doing that sabotages your success. Good luck!
Stop dating just to be dating...you don't have to always be in a relationship...learn to make yourself happy, and then you'll be in a better place to be a good partner for someone else...
...have standards, stop settling, and don't get involved with someone unless you really dig them...then it won't be so easy for someone else to come along and offer you something better...
Well try dating someone with no kids, and take ure time with it.
find a nice guy who loves you, if he trully loves you he wouldn't mind having a child with you!!!!!
good luck!!!!!!!!
Do you have any advices on a rage man?
I feeling very furious right now. I might do something crazy later on tonight like hit someone in the face, cuss them out, or commit suicide. What to do? Dumb advices I am not feeling it.Do you have any advices on a rage man?
Follow my lead.
Imagine a peaceful place,nice and alone...
Inhale deeply...
hold breath for 3 seconds...
breath out slowly...
reapeat until your ready...
Now that we are calm...
think of a solution to your anger...
violence is not the answer...
talk about it to someone you trust...
like a friend...
family...
even a pet can help...Do you have any advices on a rage man?
i feel the same way that you do right now no lie. To get it out im goonna go scream into a pillow punch it scream some more and run around...
Punching bag or weights
gym
Follow my lead.
Imagine a peaceful place,nice and alone...
Inhale deeply...
hold breath for 3 seconds...
breath out slowly...
reapeat until your ready...
Now that we are calm...
think of a solution to your anger...
violence is not the answer...
talk about it to someone you trust...
like a friend...
family...
even a pet can help...Do you have any advices on a rage man?
i feel the same way that you do right now no lie. To get it out im goonna go scream into a pillow punch it scream some more and run around...
Punching bag or weights
gym
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